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From my experience watching my friends marriage and mine that there are alot of things that you can use as excuses for breaking up. I did say excuses not reasons. Though I know people that were in violent relationships that had to leave. I know other that "got sick of fighting." I agree with Rev Randy I believe it was that said relationships grow and sometimes people grow together and sometime people grow apart.
I know some people that have grown to be such great friends that they did not see each other in a sexual way anymore and divorced, stayed friends and were fine from then on. They went on and married other people and those others are their soulmates. That is the exception not the rule obviously. I do not think anyone really wants to get a divorce, but sometimes it seems that is the only real option left. I remember in the old days ministers would say get in the spirit and it will take care of any of the problems. That is true in some instances, but I know more that after getting in the spirit ended up breaking up cause they felt a release to do so.
I am not for divorce, but sometimes people put themselves or get themselves in weird situations. People are close friends with the spouse with very little romace and they fall for someone else. My wife and I made a rule when we got married that if we felt that we were going to cheat or want out that we would tell each other so we can work through it. That is soooo much easier said than done. Neither of us want to get out of the marriage, but the more years past I think that my wife would explode and so would I if we each confessed that we had cheated. I think it all comes down to how much you want to work on problems. Always easier said than done.
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