My Life Up for Debate

[Coonskinner]

I think I'd keep the job.

Originally Posted by ILG

I hesitate to do this, because the decision ultimately has to be mine, but I decided to finally put this out here because I am interested in people's opinions.

As many of you know, I work as a Family Advocate in a Domestic Abuse shelter. I was ignorant of what the job entailed when I took it. Now, on the positive side, we are helping women in abusive situations to be safer and do something more positive with their lives. On the negative side, women come in, go through our process and get divorced. Also, on the negative side, we are supposed to be neutral and supportive no matter what the woman chooses.

I have, from the beginning, waffled about working here. On the positive side, it's a great job for me. I love working with the women and I do feel that I can be a positive influence in their lives. If I wasn't here, there would likely be a liberal feminazi (I know some here think I am that, but that is so not true) encouraging abortion and homosexuality and many things that I do not encourage. My schedule is excellent, I have a great office, pay is decent and I have some authority and is it all around a great job.

On the negative side, I can't tell these women about God and I see women getting divorced and jumping into another relationship with a new dirtbag.

On the positive side, they generally know I am a Christian even though I can't talk a whole lot about it.

On the negative side, I work in an environment that actively promotes the gay lifestyle and the morning after pill. I feel like Lot whose righteous soul was vexed from day to day with their unlawful deeds.

I feel like I would really like this job except for these things. Sometimes, I may be helping a woman get a divorce when maybe it's not God's will. Then, I tell myself that the Bible says that "If she departs, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband"....so the divorce itself is not sin, but the remarraige.......IF there were no adultery, which I don't know half the time if there was or wasn't.

Maybe I am being too conservative and legalistic about this whole thing, worrying about things that don't matter. Or maybe I need to find a new job. I have waffled on this for as long as I have been there. Anyway, I am open to the opinions of people who want to chime in. Just go easy on me.

Within the bounds of God's moral will we have a certain amount of freedom, according to the book Decision Making and the Will of God. What you need to ask yourself is whether whatever decision you make about this falls outside of God's moral will (meaning that the decision would be a decision to commit sin). If it does not fall outside of God's moral will (it is morally neutral, it doesn't violate God's word, which expresses His moral will), then which choice is the wisest choice?


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[ILG]

Thanks so much for all the opinions everyone. It means a lot to me. Please keep me in prayer. Sometimes I think I also get just plain tired out. I have a client right now who is a very heavy emotional load and I get to feeling burned out every once in a while. This debate is probably louder in my head at those times. At any rate, the battle can be tough and if you'd pray for me I would appreciate it much!

[Rico]

Originally Posted by ILG

I hesitate to do this, because the decision ultimately has to be mine, but I decided to finally put this out here because I am interested in people's opinions.

As many of you know, I work as a Family Advocate in a Domestic Abuse shelter. I was ignorant of what the job entailed when I took it. Now, on the positive side, we are helping women in abusive situations to be safer and do something more positive with their lives. On the negative side, women come in, go through our process and get divorced. Also, on the negative side, we are supposed to be neutral and supportive no matter what the woman chooses.

I have, from the beginning, waffled about working here. On the positive side, it's a great job for me. I love working with the women and I do feel that I can be a positive influence in their lives. If I wasn't here, there would likely be a liberal feminazi (I know some here think I am that, but that is so not true) encouraging abortion and homosexuality and many things that I do not encourage. My schedule is excellent, I have a great office, pay is decent and I have some authority and is it all around a great job.

On the negative side, I can't tell these women about God and I see women getting divorced and jumping into another relationship with a new dirtbag.

On the positive side, they generally know I am a Christian even though I can't talk a whole lot about it.

On the negative side, I work in an environment that actively promotes the gay lifestyle and the morning after pill. I feel like Lot whose righteous soul was vexed from day to day with their unlawful deeds.

I feel like I would really like this job except for these things. Sometimes, I may be helping a woman get a divorce when maybe it's not God's will. Then, I tell myself that the Bible says that "If she departs, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband"....so the divorce itself is not sin, but the remarraige.......IF there were no adultery, which I don't know half the time if there was or wasn't.

Maybe I am being too conservative and legalistic about this whole thing, worrying about things that don't matter. Or maybe I need to find a new job. I have waffled on this for as long as I have been there. Anyway, I am open to the opinions of people who want to chime in. Just go easy on me.

Sister, one thing you need to remember about things the Bible says. There are only two parts that apply to sinners; the part that says they need to repent and the part that says they will end up in Hell if they don't. Until they realize the latter and do the former, nothing else the Bible says will matter in their lives. It seems to me that you are in a very unique position that gives you the opportunity to do some good in womens' lives. My suggestion is that you not throw that away.

[ILG]

Originally Posted by Rico

Sister, one thing you need to remember about things the Bible says. There are only two parts that apply to sinners; the part that says they need to repent and the part that says they will end up in Hell if they don't. Until they realize the latter and do the former, nothing else the Bible says will matter in their lives. It seems to me that you are in a very unique position that gives you the opportunity to do some good in womens' lives. My suggestion is that you not throw that away.

Thanks, Rico.

[Rico]

Here's a scripture just for you, Sister.


Ga 6:9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.