Broken without being Bitter - Page 3

DividedThigh · #21 07-19-2007, 01:04 PM

Steadfast thanks for sharing, the problems and situations we encounter in life, dont make us who we are they reveal to us who we are, being broken before god is a great thing. It puts us in a position for him to use us, i watched my little boy die when i was just 26 years old, that circumstance baptized me with the compassion that still fills my heart when i see people hurting, Jesus can take that which is meant to hurt and make something beautiful out of it, that is his way, if my attitude is right, thanks again, dt

Sherri · #22 07-19-2007, 01:16 PM

Thanks, Steadfast, for those words. I can honestly say that Eddie and I have probably never really been broken until this past year. We went through a horrible ordeal with one of our churches. I saw things in myself that I never knew were there, as I struggled through anger, depression, grief, etc. Hopefully those things have been purged out of me, and I have learned lessons from the brokeness. I don't want to have to go through that lesson again; I want to learn it right this time!

DividedThigh · #23 07-19-2007, 01:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sherri

Thanks, Steadfast, for those words. I can honestly say that Eddie and I have probably never really been broken until this past year. We went through a horrible ordeal with one of our churches. I saw things in myself that I never knew were there, as I struggled through anger, depression, grief, etc. Hopefully those things have been purged out of me, and I have learned lessons from the brokeness. I don't want to have to go through that lesson again; I want to learn it right this time!

Sherri you and eddie are so nice and kind and sweet, i cant believe you struggled with anything, i guess i dont know all do i, but Jesus does, god bless you, dt

StillStanding · #24 07-19-2007, 01:30 PM

Steadfast, I spent 45 minutes writing about my broken road, but lost it when I tried to post it!

All I'll say is that God has always been my friend. When others judged me because they didn't know my situation, I didn't get bitter because I knew why they did what they did.

Today I am much less judgmental of anyone that is struggling. Since then, God has smiled on me continuously!

Today I am a better man because of being broken!

Sherri · #25 07-19-2007, 01:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pianoman

Steadfast, I spent 45 minutes writing about my broken road, but lost it when I tried to post it!

All I'll say is that God has always been my friend. When others judged me because they didn't know my situation, I didn't get bitter because I knew why they did what they did.

Today I am much less judgmental of anyone that is struggling. Since then, God has smiled on me continuously!

Today I am a better man because of being broken!

You are an AWESOME man!! I highly respect you and Mrs. P-man.

#26 07-19-2007, 01:37 PM

I was broken but not by chance! When Jesus does the breaking it is always by design! I was broken by design and the fragments are combined into a beautiful portrait of grace!

StillStanding · #27 07-19-2007, 01:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sherri

You are an AWESOME man!! I highly respect you and Mrs. P-man.

Thanks, Sherri! Of course, you know I feel the same about you and Eddie!

ManOfWord · #28 07-19-2007, 01:47 PM

This is GREAT Bro.!!!! Thanks!!!

I believe that this is not just AN important lesson to learn as we walk with God, I believe it is the MOST important lesson to learn.

I heard a wise man say, "Don't trust any man of God who doesn't walk with a "limp." If they're not "limping" they've never wrestled with God. EVERYONE needs to wrestle with God at some time in their life. I've had a couple of matches. He always wins, but He lets me score a couple of points before I get "pinned" with the message He is trying to get through to me.

When going through the process of brokenness, the question to ask is not "Why are You doing this, God?" it is, "What are You wanting to show me, Lord?"

Rhoni · #29 07-19-2007, 01:49 PM

Can we be Broken without being Bitter?

I think it depends on how we are broken. If we are loved throught he process, and find a place of refuge it is easier.

When I went through some of the most difficult times in my life, i would pray that God would keep me tender and pliable. I would ask God to not let me get bitter...I saw "bitter" on others and it isn't pretty.

I think that the process of getting broken is due to grief and loss. Grief and loss is a process: denial, hurt, anger, and then acceptance. I stayed stuck in the anger for about 7 years. When I came out of it, I was softened through forgiveness. When I forgive then I went through a period of time I was so soft that I was easily hurt and brought to tears.

I continue to be vulnerable to hurt because my heart is soft. God answered my prayer and the devil has attempted to put things in my path to get me to react the way I reacted back in the day, but I refuse to. I care but I refuse to be angry. I am able to hold more appropriate boundaries so the hurt does not affect my daily functioning, and when I give the hurt to God...I leave it there.

Just my opinions.
Rhoni

DividedThigh · #30 07-19-2007, 01:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rhoni

Can we be Broken without being Bitter?

I think it depends on how we are broken. If we are loved throught he process, and find a place of refuge it is easier.

When I went through some of the most difficult times in my life, i would pray that God would keep me tender and pliable. I would ask God to not let me get bitter...I saw "bitter" on others and it isn't pretty.

I think that the process of getting broken is due to grief and loss. Grief and loss is a process: denial, hurt, anger, and then acceptance. I stayed stuck in the anger for about 7 years. When I came out of it, I was softened through forgiveness. When I forgive then I went through a period of time I was so soft that I was easily hurt and brought to tears.

I continue to be vulnerable to hurt because my heart is soft. God answered my prayer and the devil has attempted to put things in my path to get me to react the way I reacted back in the day, but I refuse to. I care but I refuse to be angry. I am able to hold more appropriate boundaries so the hurt does not affect my daily functioning, and when I give the hurt to God...I leave it there.

Just my opinions.
Rhoni

amen sis, wow that was beautiful, dt