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Originally Posted by Jesuswins
MRS, Thank you for your insightful response, you have been most helpful!!
I "know" that being consistant is the main key, I have preached this for years to others seeking advice. But it is the hardest thing I have ever done, he has always been an angel, and we have never realy had any problems with her, so to be crossing this bridge with her is odd. Everyone always tells me how well behaved she is and what a wonderful job I have done raising her. I'm not saying that at home she's lying in the floor kicking and screaming, or trying to attack me physically, but her attitude sticks and I admitt I have not been consistant about correcting her. I plan to change that this evening! We are going to post the rules and the consequences and go over them with her tonight. There will be consequences for each time she "mouths off" and I will follow through. I am so done with this stuff!!
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You're very welcome.
I don't usually stick my nose into other people's business on raising their kids, cuz they're all so different, and we all have different philosophies about how to do it. And I certainly am not going to hold myself up as a great example as I have struggled with so much of this through the years myself. But I just felt like jumping in today...it wasn't necessarily directed at you, or your situation, but more of general ramblings, and experience from hindsight. I see so many struggle with this with their children, and it's a shame. The effects of a disrespectful child only worsens with age, and when they hit their teen years, they become someone you don't even know. When I see these kids go screaming by in the seat of the shopping cart, I just can't hardly stand it.
I understand what you're saying about her 'changing'...believe me, it's only the beginning. She will continue to change, and bring new attitudes, and new frustrations with each phase of growing up and maturing. She may have just seen another child do something similar and experimented with it by trying it out on you.
And you're not the only parent that these types of problems have crept up on. I was the same way many times. They would start doing something, and I wouldn't tune into it until it was a big problem. These things just have a way of sneaking up on you, and then BAM! reality finally hits, and you are just DONE with it. Time to go into full battle gear and attack mode!
At least you're still ahead of the game for recognizing it, and doing something about it. Good job!
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