Why do so many Apostolics NOT smile?

[dizzyde]

Originally Posted by Praxeas

Dizzyde...I do too! But I notice a lot of people just don't look and smile. Maybe they are shy?

I am willing to concede on your point, kind caveman!! I try not to jump to conclusions to often, I have made a fool of myself on one too many occasions, and I think maybe my feelings are somewhat heightened on the subject because of local church issues. But yes, people can be and are shy! (but I still think the lady last night was rude!) LOL!

[Praxeas]

Originally Posted by dizzyde

I am willing to concede on your point, kind caveman!! I try not to jump to conclusions to often, I have made a fool of myself on one too many occasions, and I think maybe my feelings are somewhat heightened on the subject because of local church issues. But yes, people can be and are shy! (but I still think the lady last night was rude!) LOL!

I may be wrong, but a lot of times shy people appear rude.

Couple weeks ago there was this girl that was new to our church. We had a youth drama going on. I think it was afterwards me, another brother and here were standing outside. She was not smiling. Not saying a word. FInally the other brother said something to her and she cracked a small smile. I commented on what a pretty smile she had and she just looked at me....I mean it was un-nerving...just looked, did not say a word, did not smile, did not blink just looked. I felt stupid lol. I was smiling and waiting for her to just smile or say thank you or whatever...I felt like crawling into a hole.

I said something to someone else about her asking if she was just shy or what it was and they said that she was very shy.

Man, just thinking about it makes me feel dumb lol. I hate that.

[Sandra]

In general people just don't smile much, very sad.
I will say in Jamacia these people down here smile. I hate I am leaving in the morning, thanks Matt for booking this. Great people, Great place.

[JaneEyre]

Originally Posted by dizzyde

Just had this conversation with my daughter and her boyfriend last night. We were in a Starbucks, late in the evening, very few customers, and a lady who was obviously Apostolic of some variety walked in. She would not make eye contact with me or smile, and this is not an isolated incident. There are so many Apostolic churches in my area, and the large majority operate in that manner. I don't really comprehend the rational behind this.

This type of scenario has been played out in my life - over and over. I am not quite as conservative as I once was and those who are ultra conservative in many cases will no longer even speak to me after I speak to them.. .I will never, never understand that. A few months ago, I tried talking to an eldely woman and she would not even acknowledge that I was speaking to her. All I can do is ignore the fact that she was so rude. I have no scandals in my life. I've never given her any reason to treat me this way. I wish I had asked her, "What is your problem with me"?...Funny thing is that I was complimenting someone in her family. What gives - do you think? Yes, she is an elderly "Pentecostal" woman and I don't think I have ever seen her smile in the 5 to 10 years I have known her. That's a long time not to smile!

[dizzyde]

Originally Posted by Praxeas

I may be wrong, but a lot of times shy people appear rude.

Couple weeks ago there was this girl that was new to our church. We had a youth drama going on. I think it was afterwards me, another brother and here were standing outside. She was not smiling. Not saying a word. FInally the other brother said something to her and she cracked a small smile. I commented on what a pretty smile she had and she just looked at me....I mean it was un-nerving...just looked, did not say a word, did not smile, did not blink just looked. I felt stupid lol. I was smiling and waiting for her to just smile or say thank you or whatever...I felt like crawling into a hole.

I said something to someone else about her asking if she was just shy or what it was and they said that she was very shy.

Man, just thinking about it makes me feel dumb lol. I hate that.

You know, this brings up another issue, I think that there are also a lot of people who were just not brought up with a lot of social graces.

I know of a lot of people that before I officially met them, I thought that they were completely rude. And then you meet them and find out that they are really great people, and you feel like an idiot because of your preconceived ideas! (I should be saying I, not you).

I come from a family with a "never meet a stranger" mentality. Although, now that I think about it, my sister doesn't really fall into that category, she probably could be perceived as being rude, in actuality she is oblivious. LOL!

[tamor]

Originally Posted by Whole Hearted

The bible says to be sober.

Wrong thread.....

[rosebud]

reminds me a a line from a sunday school song.... "If your happy then your face will surely show it". I'm smiling in my Avatar . It is kind of funny to be what I call an undercover Pentecostal, which I say tongue in cheek.....only because there are many who would not consider me to be Apostolic based on my or my husband's appearance so it is interesting how these folks react to you. Often times they will be dour face and not respond if you greet them. But on a good note, the other day we were at a cracker barrel and I ran into some obviously Apostolic ladies and they were most gracious and greeted us with pleasant smiles and hello's. I realize folks don't walk around with perpetual smiles on their faces but when someone smiles at you and says hello the polite thing to do is respond in like manner. If you don't than you appear to be rude or to perhaps think you are better than them.

[winklebottom]

I think a smile is how you can tell a true saint. I have seen a lot who don't. It is hard to smile with you nose in the air!!

[BoredOutOfMyMind]

Originally Posted by dizzyde

Just had this conversation with my daughter and her boyfriend last night. We were in a Starbucks, late in the evening, very few customers, and a lady who was obviously Apostolic of some variety walked in. She would not make eye contact with me or smile, and this is not an isolated incident. There are so many Apostolic churches in my area, and the large majority operate in that manner. I don't really comprehend the rational behind this.

Maybe this was STS and she was in fear for her Pastor preached against Coffee as the Debil's brew!

[winklebottom]

I sang at a UPC wedding...Church of over 500...not one person spoke to me.