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Originally Posted by Kae
Feminism in our culture has played a big part in taking away the role of the man. Women wanting a sperm donner so they don't have to deal with the men. Children are growing up thinking the mans role in the family is useless. This has crept into the church. Many women complain when their husbands won't be the spiritual leaders of the home. When men try to do things in the home and it doesn't line up to the womens standards men are criticized and questioned. I know this will rub women the wrong way, but women need to learn to follow their husbands without questioning and let them make mistakes and be there when they fall to hold them up without pointing the finger. It is through failure that leaders learn to lead. Giving your thoughts on a subject and questioning are two different things. A lot of men don't lead spiritually because they are criticized every step of the way. Men need to be appreciated and for their wives to think they are wonderful. This kind of criticism from a wife is disabling to a man. The most important person in his life feels he is a failure, so why try. This will make him want to stay away and not take part in the family. Yet when women make mistakes they expect to be forgiven without critisim.
When the men discipline the children and women don't agree they speak out and destroy the respect for the man in the children's eyes. When women don't agree they need to walk out of the room and later, when the children are not aware, discuss it with their husbands without the pointing finger. Children can read in their mothers eyes want they don't say with words. When I let go of our child and let my husband take over it was a very liberating day for me. He has taught them all to sit still in church. Our 15 month old sits through service and the only time we take him out is to change a diaper or get him water if I forget to bring some. This doesn't mean I don't discipline, I just learn from his example.
They Bible is very clear on a man having control of his family, yet I see ministers children doing somersaults in the isle and it is just a phase. That wouldn't have flown 50 years ago. I also see where women feel it is their responsibility to nurture and raise the child and the husband must do it their way.
I am not talking about being a doormat or letting the man control the women. I am talking about learning to let the husband lead the family. Trusting him enough to let him fail. That is really what submission is about.
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Very good post. Too many women won't let their husband be the spiritual leader.
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