Your experience when you dropped "dress standards"

[StMark]

Matt,

In my observation,the ladies in these cases want to let go of the standards due to intimidation. They feel ugly and intimidated by the girls in the world or by the Xers who often try to intimidate those still in standards by acting superior in looks. I thiink too, the older the woman gets, she starts to feel even more self conscience about all of this.Many do appear unhappy. Perhaps she is looking older then her husband ????

I think whether a church stays with standards depends on the pastor's wife. If she's conservative and wants to stay with the UPC look, so goes the church.