Where Do You Seek Your Affirmation (Approval)?

[Rhoni]

Originally Posted by jendouc

I agree with you Rhoni - I spent way too many years trying to "earn" the affirmation of people. I have had to learn that once I've talked something over with God I don't have to have affirmation from anyone else. I do, however, try to live "cautiously" as not to destroy my witness.

Jendouc,

I could cry reading this...because I feel your pain. There was a day it was very important to me what people thought and I worked harder, and harder, and harder. All I got was emotional distress, a divorce, and ungrateful saints, as well as children.

There are things that I know for sure and they came from God. The only place I feel secure is in his presence, and the only way I feel connected is in his presence.

As far as worrying about being a 'witness', I think we need to be careful to treat others as God would treat them, be merciful and forgiving...but in the forgiving we must forgive ourselves and not hide behind a facade to 'prove' anything to anyone.

Blessings, Rhoni