Oh my goodness. So a woman has a husband that physically abusing her. No adultery just physical abuse. According to your position she has to stay with him. I am a pastor and my doctrine can be summed up in one phrase: IF HE IS BEATING YOU: LEAVE HIM.
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Tim before you wig out (hows that for a pun?) StMatt also said in this thread that he doesnt believe DIVORCE is a sin.
his comments are about divorce and remarriage.
not taking a side, just trying to provide some clairity.
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Maybe neither. I don't believe lust qualifies as a reason for divorce. Nor do I believe a Christian becomes an unbeliever by a single act. I have never had to deal with this situation but it seems to me that if a spouse does commit adultery that there should be room for forgiveness by God and the other spouse. When one chooses to turn from God and live a lifestyle of sin he becomes an unbeliever. If repentance an about face then so is becoming an unbeliever.
Bubba, you know what the bible says about lusting in your heart. I agree it is not a reason for divorce. My question was worded wrong. If they never commit the act but are lusting after a person over a long period of time, are they an adulterer or adultress?
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Bubba, you know what the bible says about lusting in your heart. I agree it is not a reason for divorce. My question was worded wrong. If they never commit the act but are lusting after a person over a long period of time, are they an adulterer or adultress?
But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Jesus is raising the bar going beyond the requirements of the law. What he does not say is that lust is equal to adultery. A Pharisee might say I have never committed adultery, but Jesus was saying that they still had sinned.
Lust is equal to violating the spirit of the law even though it doesn't violate the letter. It doesn't say if you lust you have already committed adultery it says you have done that in your heart. Still a sin, but not the same.
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Bubba, you know what the bible says about lusting in your heart. I agree it is not a reason for divorce. My question was worded wrong. If they never commit the act but are lusting after a person over a long period of time, are they an adulterer or adultress?
How about someone very heavily involved in pornography?
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I say that only half joking. Most of you know that my marital situation is far from ideal. Most of it is due to my husband having Asperger's syndrome.
It's not something he can help. There is no fix, or cure for it. It just is, what it is. Because he cannot really socially relate to other people, we will never have that kind of intimacy or connection that should exist in a marriage. Since his asperger's causes him to have limited and focused interests, we really have no common interests and very little to discuss. And as his condition also causes problems with employement, I continue to be the sole provider, and well, quite frankly, I do everything.
I think if he were a little more able to care for himself that we most likely wouldn't still be together. But I feel responsbile him. (Not to mention as I have supported him the bulk of our time together, with my luck I would end up having to pay him alimony).
The way I look at it, If I am going to have to support him, I might as well have him around to do the heavy lifting.
But I can't lie, I do occasionally daydream about being swept off my feet, or running away from it all.
Perhaps the better question would be "how can I please God in this situation?"
Divorce may not be the best option, and is almost resoundingly discouraged, even when there truly are situations that fall within the parameters of Biblical allowance.
Maybe the answer is to stop looking for a way out, and to start looking for hope, restoration and the peace of God.
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