Spanking, is it biblical?

[Ron]

I have seen it where parents didn't spank thier kids when they were young!
Thier kids are disasters.

I fault my mom for drinking, not being there, and for some of the loser boyfriends she brought home.
I do not fault her for the spankings I got even though she broke rulers & spoons on me!

[Digging4Truth]

Originally Posted by Ron

Pro 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

Yup, it is Biblical.
While I agree with spanking, it isn't administered every day in every way.
My kids were taught what would cause a spanking so they understand the parameters.

Now, some punishment can be a grounding or withholding privileges like video games & computer time.

We got through to them when they were young that listening to mom & dad was the best way.

I dread when they become teanagers!

Great post.

In the years when i spanked my children I would do my VERY best to make sure that, before spanking them on ANY offense, that I know for sure that I have taught them on the subject first.

If my child did something wrong I would stop and think... Have I sat down with them and taught them that this is wrong and why we believe it is wrong? If I haven't then I won't spank them on that offense. After teaching them... then... if they do it again... now we may be looking at a spanking.

When I do have to spank them I inform them that spanking is only for children who cannot change their behavior by hearing words alone. I will tell them "When you reach them point that you can make changes in your behavior simply because of hearing my words then spanking will be a thing of the past for you"

When it does come to spanking I can honestly tell them that we have discussed this before and I had pre-warned them that if they could not hear and heed my words then we would have to use another form of punishment.

As my children get older they hear and heed my words better and the spanking is something that we don't see happen much anymore.

Also... if I am angry... the spanking will have to wait. I do all I can to not spank in anger or while angry

[Digging4Truth]

Originally Posted by Ron

I have seen it where parents didn't spank thier kids when they were young!
Thier kids are disasters.

Where there is no discipline & teaching the results are disastrous.

While I am not wholesale against spanking (I have spanked my own) I do not hold to any belief that spanking is a requirement for good children. Good discipling & teaching of children can go far.

But very few know how to really teach their children and mentor them.

[ILG]

Spanking is biblical, if it is done in love, and not in ager and if the child is really out of line of his own misbehavior.

[DividedThigh]

when i was first married moons ago, my brother in law and sister, a pastor by the way would not spank there kids, victims of dr spock, i think. When the kids got 6 and 8 and were out of control they decided to spank, it was too late, dt

[Pragmatist]

Not spanking does not equal permissive.

[Digging4Truth]

Originally Posted by Pragmatist

Not spanking does not equal permissive.

Agreed...

[DividedThigh]

i does not equal disciplined well behaved either, dt

[MissBrattified]

Originally Posted by DividedThigh

i does not equal disciplined well behaved either, dt

Of course not. There must be SOME discipline, or children will not behave. My only point is that spanking does not have to be the main component of that discipline, or even a component at all.

Consistency is WAY more important than methodology.

[Michael Phelps]

Originally Posted by DividedThigh

of course it is, the non spankers cant just erase the plethora of scriptures from the ot, lol

Just curious about this "plethora" of scriptures, DT........I only know of the one that speaks of sparing the rod.......