Meeting of AFF Members - Page 6

rgcraig · #51 11-28-2008, 02:14 PM

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Originally Posted by ILG

No, I'm just kidding and just picking on you. If his wife was fine with it...no problem. And you had your son with you so I don't see a problem. Also, in the large scheme of things, just say no works pretty good when it comes to falling into sin. Meeting people is not wrong. People usually draw the lines back farther to avoid temptation, which is just fine. But when it comes to the bottom line, we all control and choose what we do. I think sometimes people confuse avoiding temptation with sin itself.

Very well said!

ILG · #52 11-28-2008, 02:15 PM

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Originally Posted by rgcraig

Very well said!

Thank you.

rrford · #53 11-28-2008, 04:36 PM

I know it probably won't be popular but I will say that IMO a minister has to view this a good bit differently. In some ways it wouldn't matter whose kids were there or how public the place was, there will always be someone who would see the two people together and make something of it.

For a minister it is better to avoid even the appearance of impropriety. JMO.

Praxeas · #54 11-28-2008, 07:10 PM

I think it's improper for online folks of the opposite sex who are married or one of them is, to meet like that. However if two singles were meeting online and wanted to have a person to person date then I don't see what is wrong with that

Hoovie · #55 11-28-2008, 08:04 PM

Well... I said I wanted to stir things up - I guess I did.

With all due respect I think it varies for different people, and again reserving judgment against your fellow believer is key.

I think it is mostly a matter of maturity and self discipline. For example, I routinely meet with members of the opposite sex for coffee to discuss business. (mostly real estate agents and sales personnel) Also, I am alone with ladies in their homes on a regular basis at the time of my service calls. It is not uncommon for my first job in the mornings to be met by the lady of the house in her bath robe. These are both new and repeat customers.

Bless all of you.

Avoid the appearance of impropriety as you see it and never violate your conscience, but also know you can't please everyone all the time.

ILG · #56 11-28-2008, 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by rrford

I know it probably won't be popular but I will say that IMO a minister has to view this a good bit differently. In some ways it wouldn't matter whose kids were there or how public the place was, there will always be someone who would see the two people together and make something of it.

For a minister it is better to avoid even the appearance of impropriety. JMO.

Yes, in the case of a minister there is too much room for false accusation.

rgcraig · #57 11-28-2008, 10:11 PM

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Originally Posted by rrford

I know it probably won't be popular but I will say that IMO a minister has to view this a good bit differently. In some ways it wouldn't matter whose kids were there or how public the place was, there will always be someone who would see the two people together and make something of it.

For a minister it is better to avoid even the appearance of impropriety. JMO.

Well, my son is 25 - so it was really three adults meeting.

rrford · #58 11-28-2008, 10:16 PM

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Originally Posted by rgcraig

Well, my son is 25 - so it was really three adults meeting.

See how those little details can make a BIG difference?

Again, my greater concern is with ministry. Although I would still caution against most married folks meeting members of the opposite sex. Obviously there are acceptable exceptions.

ManOfWord · #59 11-29-2008, 09:27 AM

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Originally Posted by rrford

I know it probably won't be popular but I will say that IMO a minister has to view this a good bit differently. In some ways it wouldn't matter whose kids were there or how public the place was, there will always be someone who would see the two people together and make something of it.

For a minister it is better to avoid even the appearance of impropriety. JMO.

And just WHO would make something of it? Is someone's character that frail that someone would automatically think the worse? Do folks instantly think someone is "cheating?"

I'm sorry, I just don't think people are that mistrusting. If they are, the problem is much deeper than an innocent meeting. That is the absolute last thing I think of someone. We're too paranoid and fearful to even behave like decent human beings, IMHO.

StillStanding · #60 11-29-2008, 09:39 AM

Mrs. Pianoman and our daughter are both managers. A few days ago, Mrs. Pianoman took a group of contractors (men) out to a business lunch. When she walked in the restaurant, she saw our daughter at a table with two male employees talking over business issues.

They each laughed because business lunches are part of their job description. They both wondered if someone from church would see them and say, "Like mother, like daughter!"