How close should a pastor get to the members?

[aak1972]

Originally Posted by Amos

Using goofballs as an example doesn't enhance the discussion.

Situations like you reference are extremely rare and so dysfunctional that they in no way represent the mainstream.

Im only using these examples to make a point. All pastors have some line they will not cross when it comes to counseling and it varies with the pastor. My uncle has pastored the same church for 31 years and he will not counsel on personal matters.