A NEW Year-A NEW promise

[Digging4Truth]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

Sure, I agree. If we ran a statistic - I think many would fall on the side of the "energy to maintain". JMO!

Indeed...

It takes energy to maintain a marriage...

And it isn't a boundary... it is a working relationship.

The only thing one can do that doesn't require energy is to keep away from people entirely.

And that, in itself, drains you as well.

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Digging4Truth

Indeed...

I have boundaries in my life towards people who have hurt me before and those boundaries are there for their benefit as well as mine.

I have learned how close i can be and still maintain the proper respect and good friendship.

Any closer and it just won't work.

I know the place where they change and I have a fence around that place so we can be friends.

Right.

I think a man could possibly manage the boundary, forget and forgive more quickly than most woman - on average.

[Digging4Truth]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

Right.

I think a man could possibly manage the boundary, forget and forgive more quickly than most woman - on average.

Probably so...

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Digging4Truth

Probably so...

Which can only make this thread interesting with your input as a man. LOL!

[rgcraig]

What interesting is we aren't the therapist, but we've giving her the advice - - lol!

Rhonda knows her friends love her and wants to listen - that makes it all cool!

[Glenda B]

It reminds me of the song....He Can Only Pick Up What You Lay Down

Therefore if you are willing to change, He can take care of it.

My God Can Do Anything.

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by rgcraig

What interesting is we aren't the therapist, but we've giving her the advice - - lol!

Rhonda knows her friends love her and wants to listen - that makes it all cool!

LOL!

Not trying to counsel her. I have just seen two sides of the "boundary" issue and thought it was interesting to discuss. I've dealt with the "two" sided boundary in my own life. The "letting go" and the "energy maintenance". I think we all have to some degree.

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Hot Coffee Ms.

It reminds me of the song....He Can Only Pick Up What You Lay Down

Therefore if you are willing to change, He can take care of it.

My God Can Do Anything.

Excellent Point!

If you hold on to something thinking it's for protection HE can't take care of it. You have to be willing to let things go, not measure everyone with the same yardstick and NOT over analyze everything.............more of my two cents that's not worth that.

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

LOL!

Not trying to counsel her. I have just seen two sides of the "boundary" issue and thought it was interesting to discuss. I've dealt with the "two" sided boundary in my own life. The "letting go" and the "energy maintenance". I think we all have to some degree.

Exactly - - you can build that protective wall so high that it can't be torn down and that's not doing anyone any good.

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Hot Coffee Ms.

It reminds me of the song....He Can Only Pick Up What You Lay Down

Therefore if you are willing to change, He can take care of it.

My God Can Do Anything.

Yes, if we allow it. I was talking to a friend of mine that had some real traumatic issues happen to her as a child. She carried that into her adult life and finally found a good counselor who worked along side God to bring healing into her life.

It was very interesting to find out how hard she had to work to make the changes in her life. She said that many times she would regress into a pity state because it felt good and was more comfortable than the pain of getting up and working through her issues.

She went on to say that many people seek out a counselor just to vent, but don't realize there is work involved in order to really effect a change.

It made me feel exhausted to understand the process for some. I'm thankful God has helped her to where she is today!!!