Why would a Pastor do this to me ? - Page 7

TJJJ · #1 03-25-2009, 08:21 AM

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Originally Posted by pelathais

And that is a wise way of approaching these issues, oft times. However, from my own experience I have seen innumerable examples of pastors lashing out blindly at the people around them.

When I was a teen I once attended an apostolic church (briefly) where I was the only saint. Just me and the pastor and his wife and their kids. The pastor would get up and preach every Sunday just like I was a congregation of 1,000. He used to throw in stuff about "people in the church..." and how he could "tell what people in the church were thinking..."

I was thinking about throwing myself off of a cliff right about then, but he took it as some sort of "rebellion" and "disrespect" toward his ministry.

I understand and agree that it does happen. But I see that the posts were a little lopsided in their support here and played the "preacher's" advocate for a time.

We understand that there are bad preachers as well as bad saints. And preachers make mistakes! But sorry... we still only have one side of the story.

Ferd · #2 03-25-2009, 09:04 AM

Too bad Paul Harvey died the other day.

Withdrawn · #3 03-25-2009, 09:08 AM

Sinatra,

I understand your situation. I had something similar happen to me last fall... a pastor whose congregation my family had left to start another work was extremely rude to me (I discussed this briefly in the Shunning thread also) and wouldn't even acknowledge me or speak to me when he was standing right in front of me and made eye contact with me.

I would say that the best course for you is to pray hard and forgive him - whether he ever acknowledges what he has done, or whether you even ever have an opportunity to speak to him. Your best defense against bitterness is to pray for him and allow this to be a learning experience for you. You'll have an excellent example of how not to treat someone else.

You will find those here who are quick on the trigger to defend those in the "old boys club" at the expense of your feelings, however legitimate they may be. When I first posted my situation - honestly looking for help with dealing with my feelings, not trying to bash him - the defenders were out in full force. They questioned my integrity, my motives for posting (even though I did not mention his name), and assured me that the man I was referring to had "an impeccable reputation" and obviously could not have done what I said. "There has to be more to it" is the term used for "you must be leaving something out" and "it couldn't possibly have happened like that." And while I'll acknowledge that there are two sides to every story, when someone is hurt the hurt is very real... and there's NEVER a good excuse to hurt someone.

God bless you!

Timmy · #4 03-25-2009, 09:13 AM

Ah, word of knowledge. Such a handy tool.

Rhoni · #5 03-25-2009, 09:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Timmy

Ah, word of knowledge. Such a handy tool.

Yepper - but remember that the spirit of the prophet is subject to the prophet...this goes for those discerners and words of knowlege people. You have to be careful that it isn't about your agenda - but about God's. One way to tell is based on the word....there is a Biblical way of removing troublemakers from an assembly and it isn't through means of a discerner or words of wisdom by someone who who have a secondary gain from using the gift.

Blessings, Rhoni

Withdrawn · #6 03-25-2009, 09:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

Yepper - but remember that the spirit of the prophet is subject to the prophet...this goes for those discerners and words of knowlege people. You have to be careful that it isn't about your agenda - but about God's. One way to tell is based on the word....there is a Biblical way of removing troublemakers from an assembly and it isn't through means of a discerner or words of wisdom by someone who who have a secondary gain from using the gift.

Blessings, Rhoni

... or a pastor's threatened ego!

Steve Epley · #7 03-25-2009, 09:35 AM

And Santa Claus-the Easter Bunny-Tooth Fairy................

Timmy · #8 03-25-2009, 09:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Steve Epley

And Santa Claus-the Easter Bunny-Tooth Fairy................

Elder! Good to see ya!

pelathais · #9 03-25-2009, 09:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

Yepper - but remember that the spirit of the prophet is subject to the prophet...this goes for those discerners and words of knowlege people. You have to be careful that it isn't about your agenda - but about God's. One way to tell is based on the word....there is a Biblical way of removing troublemakers from an assembly and it isn't through means of a discerner or words of wisdom by someone who who have a secondary gain from using the gift.

Blessings, Rhoni

I think Stephanas hit on something with the "controls the finances..." I had a family member who was the bookkeeper for a church that he had attended for over 30 years. After the new pastor got settled in he was told to find some place else to attend.

Seems the new pastor is happy to keep his own books.

1Corinth2v4 · #10 03-25-2009, 09:39 AM

Either your ex-pastor is on a jihad holywar power-trip or you're not telling us half the story!

Either or, keep on keeping on. God will make a way!