Why would a Pastor do this to me ? - Page 5

UrbanMissions · #41 03-25-2009, 05:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Sinatra

I am trying to understand this After 13 years of membership at my church, I developed degenerative disc disease. This condition made it difficult for me to sit or stand for prolonged periods. Because of this I would oftentimes have to leave services immediately after the preaching, therefore missing the altar call. I was secretary and C. F. O. of our church, my husband was a minister in good standing. Well one day Pastor called and said that he thought that I shouldn't continue attending. I suggested that I could maybe start coming after worship service, that way I could be there for the preaching and the altar call. All he said was he thought I shouldn't keep coming. I told no one at church about this conversation. I simply did what Pastor said. This has left my spirit broken.
To this day I do not know why I was asked to leave.
Peace, Sinatra

Think of it as a blessing because if he is that kind of person you don't need to be there anyway . Perhaps God is using this to move you to a place where you can flourish more than you would have if you stayed .

GOD Bless and keep you

Rhoni · #42 03-25-2009, 06:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Sinatra

I am trying to understand this After 13 years of membership at my church, I developed degenerative disc disease. This condition made it difficult for me to sit or stand for prolonged periods. Because of this I would oftentimes have to leave services immediately after the preaching, therefore missing the altar call. I was secretary and C. F. O. of our church, my husband was a minister in good standing. Well one day Pastor called and said that he thought that I shouldn't continue attending. I suggested that I could maybe start coming after worship service, that way I could be there for the preaching and the altar call. All he said was he thought I shouldn't keep coming. I told no one at church about this conversation. I simply did what Pastor said. This has left my spirit broken.
To this day I do not know why I was asked to leave.
Peace, Sinatra

Sis,

Who knows why preachers do what they do sometimes? It is funny, the last 5 years I have heard of many Pastors asking people to leave, or forcing them out, or saying they discerned something.

My thinking on the subject is many Pastors are insecure and want complete loyalty, with unquestioning obedience and they are afraid of losing control if someone questions them or they feel threatened in any way.

The Bible tells us to go to the highways and byways and compel others to come. When the Pastor believes it is his church and everything that happens reflects on his leadership ability that is where the problem comes in. It is God's church, and he leaves the 99 to go and search for the one lost sheep who may be hurt, damaged, or distracted.

Pastors need a good dose of the Holy Ghost and knowledge of justwhat it is they are really called to be.

I am sorry for your frustration and hurt. I wil pray for you as I know just how you feel.

Blessings, Rhoni

Rhoni · #43 03-25-2009, 06:35 AM

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Originally Posted by UrbanMissions

Think of it as a blessing because if he is that kind of person you don't need to be there anyway . Perhaps God is using this to move you to a place where you can flourish more than you would have if you stayed .

GOD Bless and keep you

This is true and words of wisdom. God moved me out of a church and a home that I was not meant to be in and has blessed me with a church and a home that can bless me and that I can be a blessing to.

God knows where you are and is making things come into alignment to get you where you need to be.

Be Blessed,
Rhoni

MrsMcD · #44 03-25-2009, 06:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Sinatra

Too much time has passed. No one in the church knows why I'm no longer there. I never heard from any one after this happened.

I was a member there for 13 years.. He wasn't my Pastor for all of those years.
Peace, Sinatra

Get over it and let it go. Bitterness is the root of all evil!

Sinatra · #45 03-25-2009, 06:47 AM

To whomever is praying for me this morning, thank you. Just wanted you to know that there is such a sweet presence of the Holy Ghost here. Again, thank you.
Peace, Sinatra

CC1 · #46 03-25-2009, 07:07 AM

I think there has to be more to this story. I am not defending the pastor but in the real world a medical condition like that would be discussed with the pastor (if small enough of a church where it is obvious when a member gets up and leaves early every service) and some sort of accomodation would be reached. Perhaps the ill person sitting in the back and slipping out or in, etc.

My gut just tells me there is more to this story, that we are only hearing a portion of the total situation. The treatment of this woman may still well be indefensible when all is known.

Stephanas · #47 03-25-2009, 07:22 AM

If a pastor tells a good saint to leave, it makes you say, "Why?"

If the second pastor tells the same saint to leave, it makes you say, "Hmmm."

If the third pastor tells the same saint to leave, it makes you say, "Ah-ha."

If the fourth pastor tells the same saint to leave, it makes you say, "Goat."

Sinatra · #48 03-25-2009, 07:22 AM

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Originally Posted by MrsMcD

Get over it and let it go. Bitterness is the root of all evil!

Thank you for your words. I agree bitterness is a bad thing. However according to God's word, it is the love of money that is the root of all evil. 1 Timothy 6:10.
Peace, Sinatra

Sinatra · #49 03-25-2009, 07:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Stephanas

If a pastor tells a good saint to leave, it makes you say, "Why?"

If the second pastor tells the same saint to leave, it makes you say, "Hmmm."

If the third pastor tells the same saint to leave, it makes you say, "Ah-ha."

If the fourth pastor tells the same saint to leave, it makes you say, "Goat."

FYI: I have only been a member of two churches. The first one from childhood until I married. The second one until I was asked to leave.
Peace, Sinatra

Stephanas · #50 03-25-2009, 07:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Sinatra

I am trying to understand this After 13 years of membership at my church, I developed degenerative disc disease. This condition made it difficult for me to sit or stand for prolonged periods. Because of this I would oftentimes have to leave services immediately after the preaching, therefore missing the altar call. I was secretary and C. F. O. of our church, my husband was a minister in good standing. Well one day Pastor called and said that he thought that I shouldn't continue attending. I suggested that I could maybe start coming after worship service, that way I could be there for the preaching and the altar call. All he said was he thought I shouldn't keep coming. I told no one at church about this conversation. I simply did what Pastor said. This has left my spirit broken.
To this day I do not know why I was asked to leave.
Peace, Sinatra

An Internet forum is a poor place to seek an answer to this question, but I'll take a shot at answering the question: "Why would a pastor do this to me?"

Most pastors are notoriously reluctant to lose good saints.

Does C.F.O. mean the "person in control of the finances?"

Most often when a person leaves a church and nobody comes to attempt to win them back, there's a reason.

Take a good long look in the mirror, and if you like what you see, wipe the dust off your shoes and go on and serve the Lord.

P.S. Your husband's a minister and it sounds like there are 50 people looking for a church, round them up, rent a hall, and call it revival.

P.P.S. If I didn't know why I was asked to leave, I'd ask the one who asked me to leave. He probably knows the answer; none of the rest of us have any idea at all.