Do You People Have ANY Standards?

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This has been tickling the back of my mind all day. I am in what most would consider a uuuuuuuc church, yet I have been a part of moderate to liberal churches in the past as well. And I have friends amongst all today. No matter where I go to church, "my" standards are those in my own heart, not what is taught in the church as passable. So I have basically two "standards," or measures, of holiness:

I grew up around a group of Nazarenes at a time that they were discussing whether or not to allow young people to go to movies (sorry, true story, no offence meant). The young people were laughing at their elders for their stance: they wouldn't allow someone to go to a movie theater because young people were going and making out. So the parents started allowing the same young people to sit in a dark bedroom, alone, and watch the same movie on video tape. The young people rightfully asked, "if it isn't wrong to do the second, why make a fuss over the first?" This is one of my standards: how will my choice now affect my kids in 10-20 years?

As a new convert, I had a unique situation where I would go to one church in the summer and a different one in the winter. One was more conservative, the other moderate. A concerned sister asked me at camp that summer how I was doing, being so far from my home church. I told her that it was OK, but I didn't know what to do with the standards. Did I dress one way in the summer at the conservative church and another way in the fall at the moderate church, or what? The sister got real quiet as she turned to me and answered, "No-you pray til you get a conviction in your own heart, and live it." That was one of the best sermons I ever heard preached. And so that is my other standard: What does God want me to do, as shown from searching scriptures and praying?