Family Structure

[TJJJ]

I have been all through the UPCI, around the ACI and ultracons for a long time. The one thing I have seen consistently is a tendency by these to micromanage EVERY facet of people's lives. It breeds an immaturity among the people as they no longer have to think for themselves or make any decisions.

Our pastor says to seek counsel on large decisions, as the pastor should be a counselor, but ultimeley that decision should be the individuals.

We had a situation here that a woman's unsaved husband told her he did not want her coming to church for a few months. She had just went through chemo and had lost her hair.

They asked Pastor what to do, he said she needed to submit to the authority of her husband in this thing. What we did instead, was to visit her in her home and take the "church" to her! Weekly visits, tapes, and uplifting calls took her through this crisis and today she is back to attending church and her husband likes the church because at no time did he ever feel threatened by the assembly. He was not fighting the church for his wife!

He mows the lawns sometimes and always has a good word to say about the church. Could you imagine the division if Pastor had tried to go around the husband? We would never be able to win that man! Now, we have inroads because we left the family authority intact!

God is good!