So, you mean by your first statement that it's only a racial undertone if used by someone that is not black?
I disagree with the position that someone who is not black uses the word in a negative way without there being racial undertones. I said earlier that I know that younger white and black kids use the word even to each other as friends...I also said that I did not agree with that.
However, it is not unusual that "bad" words are viewed differently depending on who uses them and in what manner. Using the granddaddy of them all as you did earlier (the "f" word), even with that you hear friends messing around and say "____ you" in jest. It is entirely different when someone else comes along and uses the exact same words with different meaning and intent. I believe that the words themselves are simply the vehicle by which intent is conveyed. Some words, however, are incendiary and have so much historic meaning that it is safer to avoid them altogether.
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