I have been following this thread, and admit it amuses me.
Where has Bob been living?
He's like the guy whose wife has been cheating on him for years. His friends have told him over and over about her unfaithfulness, but he is so blinded by love that he just can't see the truth, and refuses to acknowledge that evidence of her adultery exists.
He refuses to believe them because he just loves her too much and still thinks of her purity on their wedding day. He's in love with a memory. That girl no longer exists.
Bob, welcome to the conversation.
This abominable doctrine has been preached for years. All of your AFF friends know this. Doctors Segraves and Bernard know this. You know this.
Stop defending it Bob and start demanding answers.
Somebody's been unfaithful.