Sex Scenes - Page 5

Pro31:28 · #41 07-26-2010, 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Pro31:28

On another note- I had a talk recently with my daughter about Harlequin romances (and similar novels), I explained to her that they are essentially "porn for women", they create expectations that our husbands cannot live up to- so we need to be aware of what we put into our heads and hearts, not just HOW we put it in.

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Originally Posted by Timmy

How about sexuality in books? No pictures, just words.

I addressed it from my perspective

MawMaw · #42 07-26-2010, 07:29 PM

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Originally Posted by ILG

If you watch movies at all, you find you have to draw some lines.

Exactly. Any movies with sex scenes are not allowed in my home. Period.

Pressing-On · #43 07-26-2010, 07:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Hoovie

I have no problem with some sensuality if it's without showing naked bodies. My wife is a bit stricter on this than I am. I am more concerned with message. Is it within the confines of marriage or are they committing sin?

The real problem is not knowing exactly what's coming in a scene. The ratings often don't tell you the whole story.

PS My kids are eleven and under - different story altogether with them.

When our children were young we watched Parent Trap with Maureen O'Hara and Brian Keith. At the end of the movie, they kissed in the kitchen.

We then watch a John Wayne movie with Maureen O'Hara and she was kissed by John Wayne. Our son was horrified! I think he was 6 or 7 years old. When he saw John Wayne kiss Maureen, he said, "Isn't she already married?!!!" He almost started crying.

So, that got me to thinking. All of these actors and actresses are married in real life to someone else, yet they share some intimacy on screen. Would that be considered adultery in God's eyes? Are we supporting this by watching and buying their movies?

MissBrattified · #44 07-26-2010, 07:53 PM

As far as what our children watch: We read reviews and info on the movies/shows before they're allowed to watch them. Context matters, but in general, they aren't allowed to watch ANY explicit or graphic sex scenes. Violent content is also addressed according to context and maturity. Normally graphic violence is out, but if it's related to a course of study on the Civil War, for instance, my older daughter is allowed to watch some war violence. I see no need to watch gory horror films which only serves to make violence titillating.

We know our children best, and we know what they're capable of processing. We aren't aiming to shield them from the world 100%, but rather to present it to them in small bites with parental guidance. (That means we have conversations about what we watch, and often more than once.) In my opinion, it's more dangerous to set a kid in front of a violent or graphic movie and walk out of the room than it is to watch the same film with parents present to offer context and opinions. That said, some content is still out, because it's worthless, and there is no context that gives it value.

I would say that for young children, ALL graphic and explicit content should be on the forbidden list, whether it's sexuality, violence, or bad language. For older kids/teens, I would say that SOME thematic material is okay if the parents can offer context and make sure the overall message is positive or educational.

MissBrattified · #45 07-26-2010, 07:57 PM

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Originally Posted by *AQuietPlace*

I use kids-in-mind.com and commonsensemedia.com. Kids-in-mind gives every teeny tiny detail, over-the-top really. I like that, because then I know that I have been alerted to any thing I would possibly find objectionable.

I use commensensemedia, and also pluggedin.com

I like to know ahead of time, because otherwise I would have to view the film before my child would be allowed to watch it. They're great tools because you can make an informed decision.

MissBrattified · #46 07-26-2010, 08:06 PM

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Originally Posted by ILG

I agree that nudity in say, national geographic, is different than sensual nudity.

I agree. For very young children, though, the material is still going to only offer stimulation. Ergo, I wouldn't hand my 3 year old nephew a Life Magazine with WWII pictures of death and destruction or even naked natives. Some things are educational and relatively inoffensive, but they're intended for mature readers or viewers.

ILG · #47 07-26-2010, 08:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Pressing-On

When our children were young we watched Parent Trap with Maureen O'Hara and Brian Keith. At the end of the movie, they kissed in the kitchen.

We then watch a John Wayne movie with Maureen O'Hara and she was kissed by John Wayne. Our son was horrified! I think he was 6 or 7 years old. When he saw John Wayne kiss Maureen, he said, "Isn't she already married?!!!" He almost started crying.

So, that got me to thinking. All of these actors and actresses are married in real life to someone else, yet they share some intimacy on screen. Would that be considered adultery in God's eyes? Are we supporting this by watching and buying their movies?

I have thought of that too and it kind of bugs me. But then you could watch nothing. I'm not sure we are responsible for their actions.

ILG · #48 07-26-2010, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by MissBrattified

I agree. For very young children, though, the material is still going to only offer stimulation. Ergo, I wouldn't hand my 3 year old nephew a Life Magazine with WWII pictures of death and destruction or even naked natives. Some things are educational and relatively inoffensive, but they're intended for mature readers or viewers.

Well, yeah. I'd be concerned about the total content of that, not just the nudity.

Hoovie · #49 07-26-2010, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by MissBrattified

I agree. For very young children, though, the material is still going to only offer stimulation. Ergo, I wouldn't hand my 3 year old nephew a Life Magazine with WWII pictures of death and destruction or even naked natives. Some things are educational and relatively inoffensive, but they're intended for mature readers or viewers.

ILG · #50 07-26-2010, 08:11 PM

Guys, when do you think women are going overboard with being too picky? Do you ever feel that way? I think women can get real picky when they have been hurt, and maybe to a pathetic extreme. I never hear men talk about this. All we hear about is what not to do. I'm just trying to broaden the discussion here.