Sex Scenes

[Pro31:28]

Originally Posted by RandyWayne

I guess it all depends on what you consider sinful when it comes to a mans take on all things "sex".

When we are walking through the store and some brunette bomb shell walks past you better believe I notice, and despite how subtle I try to be, my wife notices. She says "I see you look and as long as you don't keep looking I have no problems... your just normal."
I also don't consider it sinful or a 'battle". Just a guy appreciating stuff he is hardwired to appreciate. The ones who DO consider it a battle are the ones who are constantly white knuckled trying to think of baseball (unless that of course is a sin as well) as they walk down the grocery isle doing whatever it takes to not have ANY improper thoughts and feeling condemnation at every one that slips by.

I would agree with that, Randy. Scripture says to bring EVERY thought under submission- we are going to have thoughts, maybe it is to shoot the clerk at the DMV, or jealousy of someone who got a bonus at work, we have to acknowledge these thoughts and deal with them- That's my opinion anyway. So far this has been successful for me, as my husband is still alive and well and able to post(as opposed to where I have thought him to be at one time or another in the last 18 years)

[Socialite]

Originally Posted by *AQuietPlace*

Don't you think it's on a different level with different men?

Yes, I do.

[Socialite]

Originally Posted by RandyWayne

I guess it all depends on what you consider sinful when it comes to a mans take on all things "sex".

When we are walking through the store and some brunette bomb shell walks past you better believe I notice, and despite how subtle I try to be, my wife notices. She says "I see you look and as long as you don't keep looking I have no problems... your just normal."
I also don't consider it sinful or a 'battle". Just a guy appreciating stuff he is hardwired to appreciate. The ones who DO consider it a battle are the ones who are constantly white knuckled trying to think of baseball (unless that of course is a sin as well) as they walk down the grocery isle doing whatever it takes to not have ANY improper thoughts and feeling condemnation at every one that slips by.

So you define it differently.

The ability to make it brief (as your wife appreciated) is part of that battle. It's not always a conscious sweat match with white knuckles.

I've used the word battle, and described every man varying in degree. Same susceptibility.

(Hopefully you're just as quick returning your glance when the wifey isn't on your arm! )

[Socialite]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

I'd think he was really weird if he didn't notice a pretty woman walking by, BUT you better not turn your head and keep watching her walk by. LOL! I notice nice looking men as well. I don't spend time thinking of what it would be like to......

If a man gets white knuckled, now THAT is a problem. LOL!

I still sense naiveness with the whole concept of "looking." You seem to think a man and woman are on the same page when "looking."

Randy? Just admiring her fashion?

[Socialite]

Originally Posted by Pro31:28

I would agree with that, Randy. Scripture says to bring EVERY thought under submission- we are going to have thoughts, maybe it is to shoot the clerk at the DMV, or jealousy of someone who got a bonus at work, we have to acknowledge these thoughts and deal with them- That's my opinion anyway. So far this has been successful for me, as my husband is still alive and well and able to post(as opposed to where I have thought him to be at one time or another in the last 18 years)

I'm certainly not advocating an anti-bad thought campaign. If it's sounded that way, I apologize.

However, this "bringing thoughts into captivity" is akin to the battle I described.

Do nudie sex scenes in a movie help that "bringing thoughts captive" or do they "fan the flame?"

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Socialite

I still sense naiveness with the whole concept of "looking." You seem to think a man and woman are on the same page when "looking."

Randy? Just admiring her fashion?

What do you think either one of them was thinking?

[MissBrattified]

Originally Posted by crakjak

I agree for the most part, Miss B, however we can highly sensitize our children by setting the bar too restrictively, especially boys. We should communicate with our children about their bodies, and therefore desensitize them from extreme curiosity, I speak from personal experience.

It is easy for females to completely misunderstand male sexuality, a wise father is very important in this area. It is a powerful thing, and if it can be moderated by education and appropriate exposure, that is a very good thing.

I agree with you, but I wouldn't include graphic sex scenes in the category of "appropriate exposure."

Fathers are very important, and I think the way THEY react to sexual images or even scantily clad women (or mannequins in the Victoria's Secret window) is more influential longterm. They're sending their kids messages about the appropriate way to react.

If a man sees a scantily clad woman and reacts with disgust and disrespect, he teaches his son to objectify women. Reacting calmly and respectfully will teach his son to be a gentleman even when the woman isn't dressed like a lady. The best exposure kids can get, IMO, is by seeing their parents, grandparents and other happily married couples flirt with each other and show normal affection within the boundaries God has set.

Education, lots of communication, good examples, biblical perspective--YES!!! Graphic sex scenes in movies? Never necessary.

[Hoovie]

Originally Posted by Socialite

So you define it differently.

The ability to make it brief (as your wife appreciated) is part of that battle. It's not always a conscious sweat match with white knuckles.

I've used the word battle, and described every man varying in degree. Same susceptibility.

(Hopefully you're just as quick returning your glance when the wifey isn't on your arm! )

Whoop! There it is!

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Hoovie

Whoop! There it is!

LOL! Stephen, you're a hoot!

[Pro31:28]

Originally Posted by MissBrattified

I agree with you, but I wouldn't include graphic sex scenes in the category of "appropriate exposure."

Fathers are very important, and I think the way THEY react to sexual images or even scantily clad women (or mannequins in the Victoria's Secret window) is more influential longterm. They're sending their kids messages about the appropriate way to react.

If a man sees a scantily clad woman and reacts with disgust and disrespect, he teaches his son to objectify women. Reacting calmly and respectfully will teach his son to be a gentleman even when the woman isn't dressed like a lady. The best exposure kids can get, IMO, is by seeing their parents, grandparents and other happily married couples flirt with each other and show normal affection within the boundaries God has set.

Education, lots of communication, good examples, biblical perspective--YES!!! Graphic sex scenes in movies? Never necessary.

Bratti- you make a great point. I was 15 when I got saved in a UPC church. I invited every friend that I had and one of them had a habit of dressing a bit scantily. She came a couple of times and stopped, when I asked her why, she said because the church was full of perverts who stared at her cleavage and legs, I told her that maybe the way she was dressing was attracting the innapropriate attention. Her response was that no one stared at her the way they did in church.
I am sure that was an exaggeration, but you bring up a great point, we need to teach our children how to respond appropriatetly or the first time they get a look, "in the flesh", well....