Sex Scenes

[Socialite]

Originally Posted by Elizabeth

Well I think that is what Renda was saying, was wake up! No matter how spiritual or awesome your husband is, he is still a man- HELLO! So make yourself presentable and do not give him a reason to look else where!

Very true.

And not only help him eliminate reasons, but to do our best as a loving family to remove visual pornography for our home. The more that is left there, it's like a mine field. All will be okay, until one fateful day. Images are implanted, they can build up and explode like a bomb out of the blue in the style of an affair that leaves in its wake beautiful, sexy brides all the time. They wonder "I don't get it. I gave him everything he wanted."

I've seen it. You've seen it. We all have.

[Socialite]

I think Dr. Laura makes a good point when she insist that men are quite simple after all.

It's just understanding how that simplicity works from a very complex woman perspective.

[ILG]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

Maybe I'm not understanding the question. I'm thinking that we are saying a man is visual and deals with things in a visual way and women never do. If that is the case, then I'm not sure I can, totally, agree with that. The percentage for a man responding in that way may be higher, but that doesn't leave some of the percentage out for a woman, IMO.

I don't have any stats but men can look and be ready, all right? LOL!

(Sheesh, I feel like maybe I need to go do something else. It's hard to get points across in a mixed gender setting!!)

[Elizabeth]

Originally Posted by *AQuietPlace*

Absolutely. Women do have some 'power' in this area, and some of them abuse that.

I minister to women like this on a regular basis- i try to teach them to see themselves differently through the eyes of a loving heavenly father and they do not have to abase themselves like that any more. It is a work in progress- one that only God can do.

[*AQuietPlace*]

Originally Posted by Socialite

And not only help him eliminate reasons, but to do our best as a loving family to remove visual pornography for our home.

I agree with this.

There is a lot in media that simply isn't wholesome. We try to be very discerning and careful. I can't write that out in black and white.... what we allow and what we don't.... but we try to have a discerning spirit. If something makes us start feeling very squirmy and uncomfortable, that's a real good sign that we don't need to be watching it. And I pray often that we don't override that feeling, until we no longer notice the nudging of the spirit.

[ILG]

Originally Posted by Socialite

I think this subject is difficult because some can't conceive that their husband is like "other men." That doesn't mean he's a bad man that lacks character. I'm talking about the challenges his "hardwiring" presents him. If anything, a woman's gracious response would be one of love and support, and as many of you have already said, an awareness to keep trash out of the home.

Taking us back to the thread topic, sex scenes. How acceptable are they? Can we even do anything about them? How do we "flee fornication" in this area? A man attaches himself to images in ways a woman attaches herself with emotion. It can be devastating if we ignore it.

But I don't feel the emotion I feel when watching a love (not nude) scene is bad. It is emotionally stimulating. So, it's a hard comparision.

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by ILG

I don't have any stats but men can look and be ready, all right? LOL!

(Sheesh, I feel like maybe I need to go do something else. It's hard to get points across in a mixed gender setting!!)

I don't understand what you mean.

[Elizabeth]

Originally Posted by Socialite

I think Dr. Laura makes a good point when she insist that men are quite simple after all.

It's just understanding how that simplicity works from a very complex woman perspective.

We don't have any of these around here, do we??

[ILG]

Originally Posted by *AQuietPlace*

I agree. Promiscuous women that I have known are that way because of the attention they receive. They could care less about the act itself, it's the fact that they're "wanted" or "desired". That is what drives them.

Yeah.

[Socialite]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

Maybe I'm not understanding the question. I'm thinking that we are saying a man is visual and deals with things in a visual way and women never do. If that is the case, then I'm not sure I can, totally, agree with that. The percentage for a man responding in that way may be higher, but that doesn't leave some of the percentage out for a woman, IMO.

No, women of course deal with and interact with visual images in diverse ways. However, women deal with visual images in a different way than men.