Maybe that's witty, but I don't get it. I never said life was "a fair."
If you have a negative opinion of those who, for whatever reason, feel the need to express themselves and in the process of expressing themselves, emit opinions that are contrary to yours, then really...too bad. You'll just have to put your big boy pants on and deal with it.
I see more whining going on here by you than mostly anyone else. Your level of understanding and tolerance for those who aren't like you or haven't traveled your path, or haven't arrived at the same conclusion you did, is non-existent. It's completely unrealistic to expect everyone to deal with adversity like you have. That is unfair. So make snappy remarks about life not being fair, but you're not being realistic by expecting everyone to be just like you.
A more accurate discription of what I have been saying is that when I see others walking the path I have walked I am happy to tell them to stop laying in the ditch and complaining about being dirty.
get up and walk friend. Its a long hard slog but the slogers eventually get down the path.
those that lay in the ditch and yelp just get dirty and cold.
Look, there are plenty of folks around here that will pat you on the head and tell you youve been done wrong. you dont need me to join the chourus.
this place needs 5 or 10 folks willing to provide the other voice that says, sure youve gotten crosswise with someone and come out on the short end of the stick, but get up, move on, and be better not bitter.
Peace to you Mr. Smith I hope you find what your looking for. And I hope you get over your issues with the mythical "system"
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I think that people, of course, act off of their personalities. I'm very independent in my thinking and I don't normally go to anyone for help. I've been in church for 25 years and I have rarely ever gone to a pastor to discuss anything personal. I remember a new pastor we had that asked me something personal, point blank, and I just sat and stared at him. I learned in sales that the first person to talk is the loser. LOL! Signed a lot of contracts just sitting and waiting. LOL!
So, for me, to keep talking about the same hurts and issues at any length would make me feel ridiculous and more than that, that I had no faith and hope in God.
I would like to say that when I have read your posts, I've always been interested to try and understand your point of view and where you were coming from. I think at the beginning, and being honest, because you know it (LOL), I didn't. I then began to realize that I really needed to put in some effort to understand and listen. It's easier to get along that way, ya think?. LOL!
Sure is. People also don't listen when you have a lot of pain, which sometimes does come off as whining. When you sound whiny it makes people shut off....which causes a vicious cycle because then the pain gets worse. It is really easier to heal away from those who misunderstand where you are coming from.
I do remember tussling with you, but I also remember you coming back and saying you were sorry and that you were going to try to listen. I also left the board largely for a while which helped me free my mind up and gave me some room to heal.
Those who go on and on....well, give them some time. They'll probably figure it out eventually. Those who are still in the UPC, if you all are happy there, the best thing you can do is give a patient ear. It proves there are caring people in the UPC.
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Those who say it cannot be done should not interrupt the people doing it. ~Chinese Proverb
When I was young and clever, I wanted to change the world. Now that I am older and wiser, I strive to change myself. ~
I also left the board largely for a while which helped me free my mind up and gave me some room to heal.
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