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Old 03-04-2010, 03:40 PM
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HELP! I am new to Apostolic doctrine. New to church standards. ---

I feel totally lost at my church. I am afraid to ask questions afraid that I am being rebellious or questioning the belief system. ---

I am having a very, very difficult time with the very strong dress code, and church standards. Standards that are held at a high degree--However, no one sat me down and discussed this with me. BUT, I kept feeling I was being preached at, shunned and I didn't know why....so I ask and WOW! Know I now. BUT, I am not certain I can live to what they require? SO, what should I do...I prayed, I don't feel convicted for the things I do such, watching TV, wearing makeup, tanning bed. What do you do in my situation? I have thought about throwing in the towel and moving to another less standard church. My church is small and there is only about 20 people, and 15 are all immediate family. Then there is ME. ---They all have long flowing hair, wore in a bun..ME, I have very short hair, highlights of blonde--this is not good good. :confused

Everyone is nice, but I have no clue as to what I am doing there. God lead me there from AG church. Is this possible? I feel so bond up...I am breaking all the standards not because I choose too, I don't fully understand the purpose behind them. I have went from being a happy person to being a sad, and overwhelmed. Everyone stares at (few we have there). I love the worship, and the prayer time. But I just don't fit in as the others. At times I think about going and getting extensions in my hair just so I please the folks. I feel I am more concerned about pleaseing them then pleasing God. I feel I have lost sight with the Lord. I think more of what the church believes and accepts then what God thinks of me. Can you help me?
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Old 03-04-2010, 04:00 PM
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Hi Faith,
If God led you to this church, then you need to talk with the Pastor about your concerns and feelings. He should not think a new convert is rebellious for asking questions... maybe you just need a good Bible Study.
Just pray and allow the LORD to continue to lead you.
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Old 03-04-2010, 07:17 PM
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HELP! I am new to Apostolic doctrine. New to church standards. ---

I feel totally lost at my church. I am afraid to ask questions afraid that I am being rebellious or questioning the belief system. ---

I am having a very, very difficult time with the very strong dress code, and church standards. Standards that are held at a high degree--However, no one sat me down and discussed this with me. BUT, I kept feeling I was being preached at, shunned and I didn't know why....so I ask and WOW! Know I now. BUT, I am not certain I can live to what they require? SO, what should I do...I prayed, I don't feel convicted for the things I do such, watching TV, wearing makeup, tanning bed. What do you do in my situation? I have thought about throwing in the towel and moving to another less standard church. My church is small and there is only about 20 people, and 15 are all immediate family. Then there is ME. ---They all have long flowing hair, wore in a bun..ME, I have very short hair, highlights of blonde--this is not good good. :confused

Everyone is nice, but I have no clue as to what I am doing there. God lead me there from AG church. Is this possible? I feel so bond up...I am breaking all the standards not because I choose too, I don't fully understand the purpose behind them. I have went from being a happy person to being a sad, and overwhelmed. Everyone stares at (few we have there). I love the worship, and the prayer time. But I just don't fit in as the others. At times I think about going and getting extensions in my hair just so I please the folks. I feel I am more concerned about pleaseing them then pleasing God. I feel I have lost sight with the Lord. I think more of what the church believes and accepts then what God thinks of me. Can you help me?
The magic word here is that you are NEW.

You are not suppose to look like everyone else because you are NEW.

People are looking at you because you are NEW.

You have questions because you are NEW.

You are not being rebellious because remember that you are NEW.

If you have questions talk to the pastor because they love to talk to NEW people.
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Old 03-08-2010, 11:58 PM
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Faith, you need to talk to your pastor...

Confusion when one first moves in the direction you have, can set in...don't be afraid to talk to your pastor...HE is the one that can help you.

Things of this nature come by revelation...upon reading more of the word of God. Don't be afraid to ask or talk to your pastor, he can shed more light. If you are sitting under his ministry, he is the one that you need trust and open up to...

I am a pastor's wife...I understand how overwhelming it can seem and that is normal. We all progress at our own pace...

I will be praying for you...
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Old 06-23-2010, 11:03 PM
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Bless you faith , god has led you . I will pray for you that god will show you and help you thru the transition into the church. You will grow and learn many things. Now you are just a baby . Babies grow slowly and ask many questions .trust in god .
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Old 09-04-2010, 03:44 PM
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Faith:
If you had a question in elementary school about math, would it be rebellious to raise you hand and ask the teacher to explain? NO WAY! Even if all the other kids got that 2+2=4 and you thought it to equal 5, it would not be kicking against the system to ask for clarification! Go talk to your pastor about your questions. He may point you to a few people for bible lessons but that's okay. Learn why you should think, act and dress the way you should.
Don't feel like you are less of a Christian!
Keep walking where HE leads you.
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