The Power of A Praying Wife

[Cindy]

Originally Posted by rgcraig

That is the key. However, the breakdown is when one isn't putting God first.

Yes, I have someone very close to me going through this right now for that very reason.

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Cindy

Yes, I have someone very close to me going through this right now for that very reason.

Exactly!

I'd be very surprised if both parties are truly putting God first that their marriage would end in divorce.

And, the praying wife can only do so much as Lisa has stated - once that person decides to go out on their own and sin, not follow God, etc. it's out of her hands (prayers).

[warrior]

Considering I'm not married, I have no reference to how to have a happy marriage but I do think there has to be a level of commitment that makes people not walk out on a marriage and do whatever is necessary to make it work.

Divorce is very low in my family, but I have seen them wish they were divorced. So what does one do. Do they stay even when they aren't happy or do they walk wishing to find what they are looking for?

[Cindy]

Originally Posted by warrior

Considering I'm not married, I have no reference to how to have a happy marriage but I do think there has to be a level of commitment that makes people not walk out on a marriage and do whatever is necessary to make it work.

Divorce is very low in my family, but I have seen them wish they were divorced. So what does one do. Do they stay even when they aren't happy or do they walk wishing to find what they are looking for?

I think some give up too easily. And others suffer together for years. The one thing that is common in our culture is selfishness. I want, I need, I deserve, etc...... Mainly because what the Word teaches and what society tells us, are opposites.

God can save the abuser or the addict. Sometimes that's when the fight really starts, to live through recovery. Suddenly this person is different, you're thankful, but, what do I do now? You have to pray differently, so used to praying for one thing, now that it's happened, you have to learn to pray together. And you know the newly saved are fervent, it can be almost embarrassing.

[MissBrattified]

Originally Posted by warrior

Considering I'm not married, I have no reference to how to have a happy marriage but I do think there has to be a level of commitment that makes people not walk out on a marriage and do whatever is necessary to make it work.

Divorce is very low in my family, but I have seen them wish they were divorced. So what does one do. Do they stay even when they aren't happy or do they walk wishing to find what they are looking for?

You go into marriage with the commitment that you're going to hang in there no matter what. There have definitely been times when I could have easily thrown in the towel, and times when my husband could have done the same. Every day of marriage isn't going to be ultimate happiness and romance; you have to commit to the mundane in order to enjoy the beautiful moments woven throughout a life together.

Of course, there are situations that are beyond the control of a committed spouse, and you can't make your husband want to stay if he doesn't want to. All you can do is be stubborn enough to make sure you weren't the one who brings down the house.

Simply put: unless there's abuse, adultery or other extreme situations, then yes--you stay even when you aren't happy. "For better or worse." I agree with Cindy that many couples give up too easily.

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by MissBrattified

You go into marriage with the commitment that you're going to hang in there no matter what. There have definitely been times when I could have easily thrown in the towel, and times when my husband could have done the same. Every day of marriage isn't going to be ultimate happiness and romance; you have to commit to the mundane in order to enjoy the beautiful moments woven throughout a life together.

Of course, there are situations that are beyond the control of a committed spouse, and you can't make your husband want to stay if he doesn't want to. All you can do is be stubborn enough to make sure you weren't the one who brings down the house.

Simply put: unless there's abuse, adultery or other extreme situations, then yes--you stay even when you aren't happy. "For better or worse." I agree with Cindy that many couples give up too easily.

I agree!

[Cindy]

Originally Posted by MissBrattified

You go into marriage with the commitment that you're going to hang in there no matter what. There have definitely been times when I could have easily thrown in the towel, and times when my husband could have done the same. Every day of marriage isn't going to be ultimate happiness and romance; you have to commit to the mundane in order to enjoy the beautiful moments woven throughout a life together.

Of course, there are situations that are beyond the control of a committed spouse, and you can't make your husband want to stay if he doesn't want to. All you can do is be stubborn enough to make sure you weren't the one who brings down the house.

Simply put: unless there's abuse, adultery or other extreme situations, then yes--you stay even when you aren't happy. "For better or worse." I agree with Cindy that many couples give up too easily.

[ForeverBlessed]

Originally Posted by rgcraig

That is the key. However, the breakdown is when one isn't putting God first.

Exactly.