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Truthseeker · #41 10-26-2010, 05:46 PM

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Originally Posted by scotty

In other words.. somebody got bit by the luuuuuvvvv buuugggg.

Love is a dream, marriage is the alarm clock.

Socialite · #42 10-26-2010, 05:46 PM

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Originally Posted by dizzyde

Well... that certainly clarified it for me...

Truthseeker · #43 10-26-2010, 05:47 PM

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Originally Posted by dizzyde

Well, I was hoping that we were all clear on that point...

I would think. but some never cease to amaze me.

dizzyde · #44 10-26-2010, 05:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Socialite

LOL Well, we don't really know your situation.

Just telling you from a man's perspective.

I had safe female relationships too. And hey... you just never know.

Well, let me break it down for you, based on the list you gave me:

1. He is sending friends with heavy flirting signals.

2. I don't know, I can't get inside his head, obviously....

3. I have a beautiful daughter, and I am, well... not as beautiful (my dughter is engaged, but still, she is beautiful)

Last one, I'm not touching that!

MissBrattified · #45 10-26-2010, 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by dizzyde

Is this the general consensus on this? I really don't know. I don't believe it is anything more than friendship from this guys perspective, but he has definitely pursued the friendship... I SO CONFUSED! LOL!!!

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Originally Posted by scotty

NO !!!!!!!!

yes, most men are scum of the earth, BUT NOT ALL !!

If you are really this confused, I best advice is , RUN. Seriously .

Well, I knew it was biased when I said it. I know there are gentlemen out there, but they seem to get fewer and farther between by the day.

Of course, real *ladies* seem to be scarce as well.

Socialite · #46 10-26-2010, 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by dizzyde

Well, let me break it down for you, based on the list you gave me:

1. He is sending friends with heavy flirting signals.

2. I don't know, I can't get inside his head, obviously....

3. I have a beautiful daughter, and I am, well... not as beautiful (my dughter is engaged, but still, she is beautiful)

Last one, I'm not touching that!

Heavy flirting signals? Then it's not just friends. Hmm... interesting comment about your daughter. Are they close in age?

Instead of second-guessing, why not just enjoy the friendship naturally. If he feels unnatural, cross that bridge. If he acts awkward, call him out on it. If you need a DTR at some point, go for it. That is, would you ever go for him? Could you ever see it? If you are strongly a "no" then close out and fold your hand on this one. If there's a possibility, why not.

Re the last one

Pro31:28 · #47 10-26-2010, 05:57 PM

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Originally Posted by dizzyde

I think this is doomed, I'd better just bow out of the whole thing while I'm ahead...

Seriously, Dee do- Have you told him all of this? I think that it is important if you consider him a true a friend to be as open as you can. I was "just friends" with my guy when we met. We were each other's sounding boards and both of us "liked" other people. At one point I realized that I enjoyed his friendship a lot more than the smiles that my crush would occasionally flash at me. He also realized that he would rather spend his 4 day- weekend in the town where we lived than to take a plane to see his girlfriend in another state. We had no intention of starting a relationship, but I am soooo glad that we did! I love the quote that says, "If there is such a thing as a good marriage, it is because it resembles friendship rather than love." - Michel de Montaigne

On the other hand if something happened to my guy, I can not imagine being back "out there". I would probably stay single rather than have to go through all of the work of a healthy relationship again... I know I am babbling

dizzyde · #48 10-26-2010, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Pro31:28

Seriously, Dee do- Have you told him all of this? I think that it is important if you consider him a true a friend to be as open as you can. I was "just friends" with my guy when we met. We were each other's sounding boards and both of us "liked" other people. At one point I realized that I enjoyed his friendship a lot more than the smiles that my crush would occasionally flash at me. He also realized that he would rather spend his 4 day- weekend in the town where we lived than to take a plane to see his girlfriend in another state. We had no intention of starting a relationship, but I am soooo glad that we did! I love the quote that says, "If there is such a thing as a good marriage, it is because it resembles friendship rather than love." - Michel de Montaigne

On the other hand if something happened to my guy, I can not imagine being back "out there". I would probably stay single rather than have to go through all of the work of a healthy relationship again... I know I am babbling

No, no you're not! That is why I put this out there, I really need feed back. You know me, know my life, I am not someone who just lets everything "hang out" so to speak, it was somewhat risky for me to even post this. But I really don't have have anywhere else to go with this, to get somewhat unbiased and truthful advice.

Bottom line is that I really like this person as a friend, and I have begun to suspect that if I let myself I could feel more. And it truly would not be anything remotely resembling convenient for that to happen at this point, for a number of reasons.

And I don't really know if he even would want it.

But I have had some questions about whether or not I am short-changing myself.

So this is all very helpful actually in giving more information to process the situation mentally.

And; you have a beautiful marriage, anyone would be lucky to have what you have (and I am well aware that it doesn't happen by accident, lots of work has gone into it) Kudos to you guys!

dizzyde · #49 10-26-2010, 06:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Socialite

Heavy flirting signals? Then it's not just friends. Hmm... interesting comment about your daughter. Are they close in age?

Instead of second-guessing, why not just enjoy the friendship naturally. If he feels unnatural, cross that bridge. If he acts awkward, call him out on it. If you need a DTR at some point, go for it. That is, would you ever go for him? Could you ever see it? If you are strongly a "no" then close out and fold your hand on this one. If there's a possibility, why not.

Re the last one

Re: age, no, he quite a bit older than her, but a little younger than me...
She is just one of those girls that men tend to walk into walls around...

Praxeas · #50 10-26-2010, 06:14 PM

A lot of times,I think, he sends a friends/flirtation stuff because he is interested and testing the waters but there's something holding him back from going further like other interests, thinks you aren't that interested (thats why he's testing the waters) etc, and kinda hopes being friends might open the door to something more

Personally, even if I was not serious about a more than friends relationship, I would not flirt unless there was something about you I found attractive. So there must be something he sees in you if he is flirting