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10-29-2007, 08:32 PM
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Originally Posted by Joseph Miller
You guys are joking about all these "rules" right?
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NO I wish I were....that is the main reason we left that church...
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10-29-2007, 06:17 PM
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Da Evangelist
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I thank God for my pastor. We have never had to endure this type of stuff.
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10-29-2007, 07:00 PM
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Originally Posted by Joseph Miller
I thank God for my pastor. We have never had to endure this type of stuff.
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I had to go through various phases of it. My pastor was pretty easy going and felt that the Holy Ghost was enough to help most folks sort out their social calendars.
However his wife and others at times felt that he was too loose so they'd get after him and he'd react with a bullying attitude- we'd lose several established families and have to start all over again only to repeat the cycle. We chewed up a lot of folks in the community that way. But, hey! It's all a part of keeping a "clean church," right?
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10-29-2007, 07:16 PM
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Da Evangelist
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Originally Posted by pelathais
I had to go through various phases of it. My pastor was pretty easy going and felt that the Holy Ghost was enough to help most folks sort out their social calendars.
However his wife and others at times felt that he was too loose so they'd get after him and he'd react with a bullying attitude- we'd lose several established families and have to start all over again only to repeat the cycle. We chewed up a lot of folks in the community that way. But, hey! It's all a part of keeping a "clean church," right?
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NOPE!
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10-29-2007, 08:48 PM
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Originally Posted by Joseph Miller
I thank God for my pastor. We have never had to endure this type of stuff.
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It's no joke JM. I have seen it and lived thru it, in both upc and amf churchs
I am ashamed that I spent twenty years under this bondage.
I thank God that I am free at last.
I am going to move on to some other threads now. Talking about this old garbage is not amusing to me.
Opens old wounds that I don't want to be scratching.
Peace to all and my prayers for all, that you find healing from the wounds inflicted upon you.
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10-29-2007, 08:58 PM
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Originally Posted by freeatlast
It's no joke JM. I have seen it and lived thru it, in both upc and amf churchs
I am ashamed that I spent twenty years under this bondage.
I thank God that I am free at last.
I am going to move on to some other threads now. Talking about this old garbage is not amusing to me.
Opens old wounds that I don't want to be scratching.
Peace to all and my prayers for all, that you find healing from the wounds inflicted upon you.
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 here is a hug for you.....thanks for coming in and helping show what pain some of us have been through!
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10-29-2007, 06:21 PM
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Da Evangelist
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I have seen people backslide that never went to any college. When I was in youth ministry I had kid that backslid going to high school.
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10-29-2007, 06:21 PM
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Formerly known as CareyM
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Join Date: Feb 2007
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Well, I've probably said enough...and with me putting up this old picture as my avatar...Oh, dear...I wonder if they are reading! 
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10-29-2007, 07:44 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Tennessee
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Originally Posted by Sister Truth Seeker
This is not about bashing...please don't to go there...this is just what my church was like and my Pastor wanted it....we didn't think it was necessary so we left! I love them, and I hope nothing but the best for them, I just think fear rules them and to me that is soooooo sad!
Rules...
1. No talking on the phone for more than 10 minutes
2. No friends outside of church, not even family (it was discouraged strongly)
3. No more than three families at a time in your home and not too often, if you had a gathering you are suppose to ask everyone in the church so no one gets offended.
4. No home bible studies without the ministry being there
5. You must attend all fellowships
6. So lunch dates, or shopping with friends even the ones in church...
7. No important decisions made without consulting the pastor...like, buying a car(new, used, how much you can spend)...same with a home or property.
8. You were not allowed to move, unless you had his OK.
Being we are older we did not attend parenting classes or marriage classes so we missed out on a lot of the rules...but over time we learned. This is not everything, but for the moment its enough...I might add more as I think of them.....
So there ya go Thad....
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That's cultic in my opinion.
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10-29-2007, 08:46 PM
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Welllll...I know what its like to attend a church with overbearing leadership...(although ours wasn't as bad as what you listed, STS.) My nagging question is:
WHY did you go back?????? 
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"To see no being, not God’s or any, but you also go thither,
To see no possession but you may possess it—enjoying all without labor or purchase—
abstracting the feast, yet not abstracting one particle of it;…."
--Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass, Song of the Open Road
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