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10-29-2007, 08:49 PM
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Originally Posted by MissBrattified
Welllll...I know what its like to attend a church with overbearing leadership...(although ours wasn't as bad as what you listed, STS.) My nagging question is:
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STS, I was in a similar church for quite a few years, although your set of rules even seem more stringent than mine were. Everything was regulated about women's clothing, hair, places to visit, etc. I guess I just didn't want to think for myself at the time. I still consider myself conservative, but not ultra conservative.
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10-29-2007, 08:57 PM
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Originally Posted by JaneEyre
STS, I was in a similar church for quite a few years, although your set of rules even seem more stringent than mine were. Everything was regulated about women's clothing, hair, places to visit, etc. I guess I just didn't want to think for myself at the time. I still consider myself conservative, but not ultra conservative.
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Me too!
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10-29-2007, 08:52 PM
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Originally Posted by MissBrattified
Welllll...I know what its like to attend a church with overbearing leadership...(although ours wasn't as bad as what you listed, STS.) My nagging question is:
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I went back to be sure I had not made a terrible mistake...I was hoping against hope that things had changed, I had heard there were many changes...but it was not true....the oppression and control, the constant fear preaching...RULES....RULES!
Thankfully I am not bitter against God if anything I love Him even more!
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10-30-2007, 09:16 AM
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Originally Posted by Sister Truth Seeker
This is not about bashing...please don't to go there...this is just what my church was like and my Pastor wanted it....we didn't think it was necessary so we left! I love them, and I hope nothing but the best for them, I just think fear rules them and to me that is soooooo sad!
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1. No talking on the phone for more than 10 minutes
2. No friends outside of church, not even family (it was discouraged strongly)
3. No more than three families at a time in your home and not too often, if you had a gathering you are suppose to ask everyone in the church so no one gets offended.
4. No home bible studies without the ministry being there
5. You must attend all fellowships
6. So lunch dates, or shopping with friends even the ones in church...
7. No important decisions made without consulting the pastor...like, buying a car(new, used, how much you can spend)...same with a home or property.
8. You were not allowed to move, unless you had his OK.
Being we are older we did not attend parenting classes or marriage classes so we missed out on a lot of the rules...but over time we learned. This is not everything, but for the moment its enough...I might add more as I think of them.....
So there ya go Thad....
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Children must have very rigid rules, you know children cannot be trusted to do anything right. 
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10-30-2007, 09:21 AM
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Originally Posted by crakjak
Children must have very rigid rules, you know children cannot be trusted to do anything right. |
Thats right...and we got spanked often too....spare the rod ya know...spoil the child....I know their intentions were good, but we know where that road leads....don't we!
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10-30-2007, 01:45 PM
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Originally Posted by Sister Truth Seeker
Thats right...and we got spanked often too....spare the rod ya know...spoil the child....I know their intent
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The pastor spanked you guys too?
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10-30-2007, 03:48 PM
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Formerly known as CareyM
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Oregon
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Originally Posted by Praxeas
The pastor spanked you guys too?
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Not literally.
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10-30-2007, 04:23 PM
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Originally Posted by Praxeas
The pastor spanked you guys too?
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 yes over the pulpit...if someone was doing something wrong instead of taking them aside and speaking to them we all got a lecture...Sunday after Sunday I was beginning to think it was a recording...redundunt...subtle hints about things...NEVER just coming out and saying what they mean....they played big mind games....and they still are! 
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10-30-2007, 04:27 PM
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It was the preaching that made us leave.....do you want to know more Thad...anyone?
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10-30-2007, 05:32 PM
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I have been friends with The Mrs for 10 years now...hard to believe it has been that long...but she is one of my closest friends...she is the kind of friend that will drive alllll night to get to you if you need help...she is the first one I call when I am in need...and she is always there.....
I told you all that to tell you this...I pushed her away because of that pastor...they left the church....and we did not speak for almost or around 2 years...I thought she was so decieved...and had a bad spirit of rebellion on her(this was drummed into me over and over)...oh my goodness I am confessing here folks...it was really ugly...she and her family were hurt more than she will ever admit....I have cried many tears over what a beautiful and dear friend she is and how she still loves me in spite of what I did to her......the whole time we were separated I grieved more for her than I did anything in my life...God kept speaking to me, and giving me signs I would be close to her again....when we left that church they were the FIRST ones we called....they came and forgave and loved us all the more! God is so awesome and He gives us such wonderful friends! I love my friend 
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