I think this is easier said than done, but of course it can be done. It's just a lot easier when folks say they're sorry, and really mean it. It's disarming, even for the most heinous offenses.
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It's too short to carry a grudge....
Just be kind to everybody...
Do good to those who despitefully use you and persecute you? I'm for that. But don't be so quick to let those who owe apologies off the hook.
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"God, send me anywhere, only go with me. Lay any burden on me, only sustain me. And sever any tie in my heart except the tie that binds my heart to Yours."
--David Livingstone
"To see no being, not God’s or any, but you also go thither,
To see no possession but you may possess it—enjoying all without labor or purchase—
abstracting the feast, yet not abstracting one particle of it;…."
--Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass, Song of the Open Road
I think this is easier said than done, but of course it can be done. It's just a lot easier when folks say they're sorry, and really mean it. It's disarming, even for the most heinous offenses.
Do good to those who despitefully use you and persecute you? I'm for that. But don't be so quick to let those who owe apologies off the hook.
Why not??
Jesus simply said...Turn the the other cheek....
I refuse to carry someone else's problems..it's unfair to me..#1...unfair to my wife...and my kids....and to my other friends...
I am not cheapening any body's experience...because there are terrible things that happen...and sometimes only forgiveness comes by the Grace of God....but for the petty things....money.....whatever....it ain't going to matter what's done is done... am I sad for those things...yep....
Attitude is all about choice... I just prefer not to dwell on what will pull me down....It's not worth it... So I wake up...smile at my wife....and my kids...and get on with life...
I refuse to carry someone else's problems..it's unfair to me..#1...unfair to my wife...and my kids....and to my other friends...
I am not cheapening any body's experience...because there are terrible things that happen...and sometimes only forgiveness comes by the Grace of God....but for the petty things....money.....whatever....it ain't going to matter what's done is done... am I sad for those things...yep....
Attitude is all about choice... I just prefer not to dwell on what will pull me down....It's not worth it... So I wake up...smile at my wife....and my kids...and get on with life...
I don't mean those who have offended you personally! LOL!!! But in a setting of a discussion...you should spend just as much time encouraging folks to apologize for wrongdoing as you do others to practice forgiveness. Both are necessary for Christians to live a victorious life! Folks can't go around offending everyone, never making it right, and expect to have a good relationship with God. (Assuming those offenses aren't unintentional.)
Of course attitude is a choice! But the choice can be easy or difficult based on your circumstances. God helps us rise above our circumstances, and make the right choices.
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"God, send me anywhere, only go with me. Lay any burden on me, only sustain me. And sever any tie in my heart except the tie that binds my heart to Yours."
--David Livingstone
"To see no being, not God’s or any, but you also go thither,
To see no possession but you may possess it—enjoying all without labor or purchase—
abstracting the feast, yet not abstracting one particle of it;…."
--Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass, Song of the Open Road
I refuse to carry someone else's problems..it's unfair to me..#1...unfair to my wife...and my kids....and to my other friends...
I am not cheapening any body's experience...because there are terrible things that happen...and sometimes only forgiveness comes by the Grace of God....but for the petty things....money.....whatever....it ain't going to matter what's done is done... am I sad for those things...yep....
Attitude is all about choice... I just prefer not to dwell on what will pull me down....It's not worth it... So I wake up...smile at my wife....and my kids...and get on with life...
Very well said. And you won't get ulcers in the mean time. At least not for that.
I'm told to forgive when my brother sins against me.....not, forgive when he apologizes.
Many times I have had to just let it go and forget it.
Bro. Tenney tells of a lady who's husband left her with several kids and quite a few bills. She came to church, and the pastor could tell she was having a hard time letting go of her bitterness, she was struggling to worship, etc.
One night at the altar, he saw her hunched over, fists clenched, crying.........no joy, no release. He knelt down beside her, and said, "Sister, you're going to have to forgive your husband".
She whirled around, and thru clenched teeth said, "He doesn't DESERVE to be forgiven!"
The wise pastor said, "No, but YOU do.......and until you forgive him, God can't forgive you."
She broke down and began to sob and let it all go at the altar.........and finally found peace in her own mind.
__________________ "Many people view their relationship with God like a "color by number" picture. It's easier to let someone else define the boundaries, tell them which blanks to fill in, and what color to use than it is for them to take a blank canvas and seek inspiration from the Source in order to paint their own masterpiece"
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