Re: How were you treated when changed your standar
I was raised in the AG, so a little different situation, but not as different as you might think. We didn't call our rules "standards", but it's about the same thing. Oh, the list of rules/standards was different, but a lot of ours weren't found in the Bible, just like a lot of yours.
They changed over the years: when I was a kid, there was absolutely no problem with Halloween, but we couldn't play pool. Now, it's just the opposite -- in a most AG churches, anyway. (That's another similarity we have with you guys: the rules vary a lot from church to church, and even from family to family. )
Anyway, in my case, I "left standards", so to speak, gradually. (Slippery slope, you say? ) Never really followed the no-drinking rule, from the time I reached drinking age. Just didn't buy it, since it wasn't "Bible". Didn't drop the tithing rule until I was in my forties.
How was I treated? Not too badly, really. Even today, I just get occasional "advice" from Mom about it , but otherwise, no problem.
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Re: How were you treated when changed your standar
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My mind comes to what happened when you figured out that the Bible doesn't have what you thought was there because it had been repeated so many times. But the flip side would be interesting too, for those that stepped into "Holiness" doctrine from living normally. Of course, usually those that adopted the "Holiness Standard" left a sinful life and came to God it seems.
Anyway, were you shunned, did your family say you were going to hell, did you lose everyone you knew and had to start over? How did you find a new church? Really, anything you want to share would be helpful.
It seems that when you leave a church with outward standards, it doesn't matter that you have the inward standards that the Bible DOES require. Suddenly, even though they are supposed to love their enemies, you are not worthy of love any more. It hurts when you see that they love the rest of the world and not you.
Most importantly, how did you deal with it and get over it? I know it is obvious that we need to care more about what God thinks than what men think, but we are human and we do desire to have people accept us and love us, especially the family of God.
Thanks to all who take the time to answer these questions.
People didn't understand at all. But then, I was so in love with God I didn't care. I really believed in what I was doing.
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Re: How were you treated when changed your standar
I grew up in a church with lots of 'standards" and still belong to a church with lots of standards...we all should have standards....however we should know most things we call standards are really convictions...personal convictions....and personal should remain personal...
and I was just teasing about coffee...lol...I am such a teaser sometimes people don´t know when I am serious...
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Re: How were you treated when changed your standar
One of the girls I grew up with in Ohio and went to JCM with refused to see me when I passed through where she and her husband were Pastoring. She reemed me out for "knowing better". She was very rude and other friends felt they had to "let me know how they felt" every time I saw one. and preachers loved to preach about me in whatever service I happened to attend. I was hurt at first as the habit is to kick a person when they are down in UPC, but now I just consider their ignorance and let it roll off my back like water off a duck's back.
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One of the girls I grew up with in Ohio and went to JCM with refused to see me when I passed through where she and her husband were Pastoring. She reemed me out for "knowing better". She was very rude and other friends felt they had to "let me know how they felt" every time I saw one. and preachers loved to preach about me in whatever service I happened to attend. I was hurt at first as the habit is to kick a person when they are down in UPC, but now I just consider their ignorance and let it roll off my back like water off a duck's back.
Blessings, Rhoni
rhoni, my friend let me speak to your heart for Jesus, i think you are great, and god loves you, do the right thing and leave them in the dust, where they live, dt
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) Never really followed the no-drinking rule, from the time I reached drinking age. Just didn't buy it, since it wasn't "Bible". Didn't drop the tithing rule until I was in my forties.
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