Ive tried to let go!!How do we forgive when the wound is so deep?What if you have to see the person every day? Its like pouring salt on the wound.I have been on my knees and begged God to take it away!!! My daughter was hurt very bad.There has got to be a way to do this in Jesus name!!!!!
Just wondering, should we forgive even if we aren't asked for forgiveness? If the other one isn't even sorry?
Haven't you been reading what folks are writing?
If you use Jesus as an example, He was willing to forgive those who killed him even though they did not or may never have repented.
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His banner over me is LOVE.... My soul followeth hard after thee....Love one another with a pure heart fervently. Jesus saith unto her, Said I not unto thee, that, if thou wouldest believe, thou shouldest see the glory of God?
To be a servant of God, it will cost us our total commitment to God, and God alone. His burden must be our burden... Sis Alvear
We are going through a life changing event right now and have been very much wronged. For a while it was consuming me. I reached the point where I did not want to leave the house, didn't want to eat, and had day dreams of the other party's destruction. I prayed and some days, did better. Others - not so much.
My mom told me that I was "drinking the poison hoping [person's name] will die from it" and that really hit home.
I'm doing better. We still have daily problems as a result of this person, but I have forgiven. And I try to daily remember not to drink the poison and hope he will die. God will take care of me as long as I don't allow anger and bitterness to take over my soul.
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God is good!
May my life be a daily example of the redeeming power and the love of God
Ive tried to let go!!How do we forgive when the wound is so deep?What if you have to see the person every day? Its like pouring salt on the wound.I have been on my knees and begged God to take it away!!! My daughter was hurt very bad.There has got to be a way to do this in Jesus name!!!!!
I know where you are, I've been there. Someone wronged me badly (supposed to be my best friend) and I had to see her every time I went to church. It consumed me. I struggled, prayed, begged God to help me forgive, tried so hard to forgive. It nearly destroyed me. I didn't want to be wrong with God because of unforgiveness, but I just COULD NOT DO IT.
I finally came to a place where I just handed it to God. 'God, you know I can't do this. I'm not capable of forgiving this person. I just give it to you. I'm going to ask for your mercy when I think horrible thoughts about her. Right now, I just can't get over this. I give it to you, I ask you to change my heart and my thoughts.'
My part in this was to at least TRY to avoid the angry thoughts. If I caught myself dwelling on it, I'd try to shift my mind to think of something else. It can actually become a habit to just dwell on a certain situation in your mind. So, that was my part. I made the effort to not dwell on it. Other than that, I just left it to God. I stopped beating myself up for not forgiving.
I can't even tell you when, but something changed in me. Little by little, the anger began to lift. After 7 years of being obsessed with it, in the past year it has just lifted. I can see this person at church now, and not even think about what happened. She just doesn't register on my radar now. After being nearly the only thing on my radar for so many years. Really, God worked a miracle in my heart and in my mind.
That's my recommendation. Don't try so hard, just tell God that you can't do it, and let him work a miracle inside your heart. It may take a few years. If something is really traumatic, it does a number on your psyche. It can take time to mentally and emotionally heal. Sometimes God will heal you immediately, sometimes he takes you through a process. But if you ask him to heal you, he will.
A really good book to read on keeping our minds free from stuff like bitterness and unforgiveness is The Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Meyers. I have it in devotional form and have read it every year for the past four years. You can pick it up at Walmart.
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His banner over me is LOVE.... My soul followeth hard after thee....Love one another with a pure heart fervently. Jesus saith unto her, Said I not unto thee, that, if thou wouldest believe, thou shouldest see the glory of God?
To be a servant of God, it will cost us our total commitment to God, and God alone. His burden must be our burden... Sis Alvear
True. But apparently, it ended there. Nowadays, nobody gets a pass.
Nope, it's God will that all men be saved and come to the knowledge of the truth. Forgiveness by God through Jesus Christ is available today to "whosoever will".
Ps 86:5 For thou, Lord, art good, and ready to forgive; and plenteous in mercy unto all them that call upon thee.
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His banner over me is LOVE.... My soul followeth hard after thee....Love one another with a pure heart fervently. Jesus saith unto her, Said I not unto thee, that, if thou wouldest believe, thou shouldest see the glory of God?
To be a servant of God, it will cost us our total commitment to God, and God alone. His burden must be our burden... Sis Alvear
Nope, it's God will that all men be saved and come to the knowledge of the truth. Forgiveness by God through Jesus Christ is available today to "whosoever will".
Ps 86:5 For thou, Lord, art good, and ready to forgive; and plenteous in mercy unto all them that call upon thee.
Huh? I'm talking about forgiveness, with or without repentance. It may very well be God's will that everyone repent and be saved, but you must agree (seems to me) that God will not forgive without repentance! (In your theology, that is.) Nothing at all to do with what He wants people to do.
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Hebrews 13:23 Know ye that our brother Timothy is set at liberty
My soul followeth hard after thee....Love one another with a pure heart fervently. 
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