Emotional Vampires - Page 3

rgcraig · #21 08-05-2008, 01:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

DT,

Sean Connery is one of the last of his breed; a true gentleman, romantic, and chivalrous. It is so difficult to find these traits in younger men. It is not so much his looks but what I have seen him stand for.

Maybe, I am just an old soul.

Blessing, Rhoni

You are judging him by the roles he plays. He might not be anything like that at all in real life!

The reason men aren't that way anymore is because women send out messages that they don't need them for anything.

Michael Phelps · #22 08-05-2008, 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by rgcraig

You are judging him by the roles he plays. He might not be anything like that at all in real life!

The reason men aren't that way anymore is because women send out messages that they don't need them for anything.

Or, maybe the men are intimidated...........

Margies3 · #23 08-05-2008, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

I like his role as King Arthur. He was the stability that Lady G needed and in the end did not deny her the passion she also needed. He knew what true love was...in his role as King Arthur that is

Blessings, Rhoni

So you're in love iwth King Arthur and not really Sean Connery?

You really are a romantic at heart, Rhoni. That's sweet.

DividedThigh · #24 08-05-2008, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by rgcraig

You are judging him by the roles he plays. He might not be anything like that at all in real life!

The reason men aren't that way anymore is because women send out messages that they don't need them for anything.

i think you are on to something renda, i think it is important for both parties to be honest about what they need and expect before i dos, lol, really, dt

dizzyde · #25 08-05-2008, 01:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

Dizzy,

It is easy to fall into the co-dependent trap of needing to be needed. Boundaries are good here too. Many co-dependent people deny their own needs while helping others, and then getting angry at the other person when they become overwhelmed or feeling empty.

Blessings, Rhoni

This is true, and it is usually when I find myself starting to feel angry and trapped, that I know it has reached the point where it is not healthy.

I don't mean to sound like this happens every day, but I have found myself in this position probably 4 or 5 times in the last 10 to 15 years. I have gotten much better at reading the signs and seeing people more clearly as time has gone by, it doesn't happen so much anymore. That kind of makes me sad as well, because I wonder if I have built up too many walls.

dizzyde · #26 08-05-2008, 01:31 PM

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Originally Posted by DividedThigh

so true diz, hang in there god will lead you to people that only you can help and give you the strength to endure or cut the cord, let him help you, your heart is in the right place, dt

Thanks, I am trying!

rgcraig · #27 08-05-2008, 01:33 PM

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Originally Posted by DividedThigh

i think you are on to something renda, i think it is important for both parties to be honest about what they need and expect before i dos, lol, really, dt

It's really sad that society has changed the roles of women so much, but that's another thread!

The emotional vampires that were in my life were draining me dry at one point and it did have a BIG affect on me. I had to just cut ties completely with both of them until things got better for them.

I enjoy being there for someone, but a person can only take so much!

DividedThigh · #28 08-05-2008, 01:35 PM

understandable renda, good move, saved yourself some more pain probably, protecting your self and good health is a good place to start, dt

Pro31:28 · #29 08-05-2008, 01:35 PM

we have really been trying to teach our kids the principles of chivalry. Teaching our son to open doors and our daughter to wait for them to be opened. Teaching our son to offer to help before he is asked and our daughter to always ask if she can. Chivalry runs both ways and both genders need to participate....

DividedThigh · #30 08-05-2008, 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Pro31:28

we have really been trying to teach our kids the principles of chivalry. Teaching our son to open doors and our daughter to wait for them to be opened. Teaching our son to offer to help before he is asked and our daughter to always ask if she can. Chivalry runs both ways and both genders need to participate....

good manners are the hallmark of decency and respect, keep it up, we are trying too, more difficult with teens though, lol