I know some can't afford to dress up much, but if they are neat and clean that should be all that matters.
You'd be surprised how many nice, name brand kids clothes are found at yard sales and thrift stores. (Not everyone would admit that they shop there though.. LOL ) I am proud to say that there are very few items in my son's closet that I paid more than $5 for... In fact, I found a suit for him at a thrift store recently for $8-- complete with the vest and matching tie. There isn't a pair of dress slacks or a dress shirt here that I paid more than $2 for. I bought my son 5 pair of Tommy Hilfiger jeans off craigslist for $3 a pair. People just have to know where to shop. Let someone pay the high prices-- I'll gladly buy things they donate to a thrift shop or put up for sale on craigslist.
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Originally Posted by MissBrattified
Of course neat, clean and clothes that fit is most important! LOL!!! We apply that to all clothes, both dressy and casual. There are times when dressy is appropriate, like weddings, funerals, business meetings, and some church services. There are times when it's okay to be casual, ultra casual, or maybe just business casual. Children need to learn how to be appropriate for any occasion. That's just as important as teaching them to be courteous and use proper etiquette at the dinner table, IMO.
Not everything children learn should be just about their immediate comfort. Many things need to be about teaching them to interact successfully in society and in their culture.
Also, I think we SHOULD care what others think of our appearance, to some extent. Men look on the outward appearance--that's just human nature--and first impressions are lasting impressions. Our attire should be inoffensive. We should be neat and clean. If we put someone off with our appearance, they're probably not going to give us a chance to form a friendship with them. (talking about unbelievers here)
Look at the people in the polygamist sect...their appearance is very off putting to the general public. I doubt they get many opportunities to witness to the average unbeliever. To some extent, we need to fit in. And dressing sloppy or TOO casual is not always the way to do that.
I don't want my children to feel that it doesn't matter how others perceive them, or that they can dress however they want anywhere they want, because it DOES matter how others perceive them, and it is offensive and selfish to always do things "my way."
You'd be surprised how many nice, name brand kids clothes are found at yard sales and thrift stores. (Not everyone would admit that they shop there though.. LOL ) I am proud to say that there are very few items in my son's closet that I paid more than $5 for... In fact, I found a suit for him at a thrift store recently for $8-- complete with the vest and matching tie. There isn't a pair of dress slacks or a dress shirt here that I paid more than $2 for. I bought my son 5 pair of Tommy Hilfiger jeans off craigslist for $3 a pair. People just have to know where to shop. Let someone pay the high prices-- I'll gladly buy things they donate to a thrift shop or put up for sale on craigslist.
I LOVE shopping at Goodwill. And we have a great consignment shop in Tulsa called Deja Vu that only sells name brand consignment. I have found some beautiful clothes in there for a fraction of the price!
The trick to shopping at consignment/thrift stores is to have a good eye for quality and brands, and to be willing to take the time to sift through everything. I usually spend a couple of hours at Goodwill when I go, walk out with a couple of bags full of clothes and shoes, and I have NEVER spent more than $80 in a single trip.
I also don't buy anything if it's not in mint condition, unless it's really worth it, and I know it can be easily repaired.
Last week, I went in and bought two pairs of casual shoes for $8, one pair of black casuals by Nine West, and one pair of cream/brown Steve Madden's. I call that a good day.
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Why do some dress there kids in a suit and tie to go to church.. I have only noticed this in the upc church also. In my opinion kids grow to fast for suits I know I have 2 kids myself and always by the end of sunday school the tie is off and the shirt is untucked so why even bother dressing them up... TGIF everyone.
because we can and because they look very nice when they are nicely dressed.
why do we feed them? they only poop it out the other end. good grief you have to go to this extreme to bash the UPCI?
I suppose any reason to blast the UPCI should not and will not be over looked. shame on you!
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To make the parents look good. It has nothing to do with the children, it's all about making sure little Johnny looks like a polished penny so nobody has anything bad to say about how mom and dad send him to church in rags. And believe me, people DO talk about how other parents dress their children. Been there. Shamefully, I've even participated in such nonsense.
Looks like somebody walked in the room with all their own personal baggage hung around their neck.
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I believe when you go to church you should dress your best. Whatever your "best" is. Some don't have as much as others so whatever you got, just where your best. And by all means make sure it is clean an pressed. Take a shower and brush your teeth.
I know some can't afford to dress up much, but if they are neat and clean that should be all that matters.
I aim for clean. We usually end up at least fully clothed. Seriously I consider it an accomplishment every time we make it to church at all. lol
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