Kids who live at home but do not go to church

[ForeverBlessed]

Originally Posted by Theophil

I agree. Does it have to be said that "making" someone go to church does not mean you are making them "live for God"?

no, they can't be made to serve God... but they are most definitely kept in the presence of God on a regular basis...and I have watched his presence melt a very stubborn heart who thought she knew what she wanted.

I have more experience than just my oldest... at 16, my middle daughter thought she would test me... it was a serious matter... thankfully she was a minor and even the law stood behind me. The first 3 months or so was miserable... I had to stick to my word w/consistancy... She has made radical changes.. is currently living stronger for God than ever...last night told me how she was fasting partial foods and even other things between now and Easter... I am so thankful.

My girls hear a praying mother travailing for their souls every day.... I take the responsibility very seriously. They joke about me sometimes venturing into their rooms to lay hands on them while their still sleeping in the morning... they can't get away from it.

They are young, they will slip and fall... especially in the world we are living.. but they will never get away from the prayers of their mom and knowing what she believes is right.

I know I am doing right... because my parents had the same rules... never backed down and I am living for God today.... I couldn't get away from what they taught and hearing their prayers.... often interupting my sleep.

[*AQuietPlace*]

Originally Posted by Pastor DTSalaz

Until what age do you let your children stay at home?

What about when they get married?

Can your son bring his wife to live with you until they get more financially stable?

What about your daughters husband?

Will they need to live for God?

Pastor DT Salaz

Our children can live here until they're married if they choose to, but after 18 they start paying rent.

They don't need to get married unless they can financially afford to support a wife. After marriage, if they lose their job or something like that, they could live with us until they got back on their feet, but it'd definitely be a temporary thing.

After our children turn 18, we personally would not make them attend church, just obey the house rules. Thankfully, we are blessed, and our children are all serving God now.

[Esther]

I think this is an independent situation that has to be decided child by child. For some I think FB is right, and before would have agreed 100% all should be that way.

But I have lived long enough now to know that that is not the best for each child. Sometimes it is best to keep them in your sight and let them hear you praying for them. That you love them unconditionally.

It takes prayer and God's divine direction to know how to handle each situation. JMO

[pelathais]

Originally Posted by areyourucky

I have a freind that told me, His kids live at home still, but do not go to church or live for God. He says, i rather have them drink at home, than some where else.

My responce was , the prodigal son, had to leave his father to live in the world of sin, when he came to himself, he returned to a Godly home, in order.


As dr. James dobson says, its hard to let go, some parents are held hostage in there own home. Does anyone else have any in put on this, so i may share with them later..

I'd be concerned about their upbring and education. Why does "Not going to church..." have to equate to "Drinking...?"

I suppose if the kids were 14 and 15 and had your car keys, then it's better for them to drink at home than on the road. But how did we get to this place?

I've seen some people whose ideas on parenting were to either be Nazis or Nihilists. What if both of those options were wrong? You're going to raise some jerks that are as confused as the parents if you don't hurry up and figure this one out.

Better not to have married your first cousin in the first place; but what's done is done. Now all you can do is mitigate the damage that's been done and get the kid's tubes tied.

[Theophil]

Originally Posted by pelathais

I'd be concerned about their upbring and education. Why does "Not going to church..." have to equate to "Drinking...?"

I suppose if the kids were 14 and 15 and had your car keys, then it's better for them to drink at home than on the road. But how did we get to this place?

I've seen some people whose ideas on parenting were to either be Nazis or Nihilists. What if both of those options were wrong? You're going to raise some jerks that are as confused as the parents if you don't hurry up and figure this one out.

Better not to have married your first cousin in the first place; but what's done is done. Now all you can do is mitigate the damage that's been done and get the kid's tubes tied.

ROFL. Sorry, but ROFL. You are too much P.

[StillStanding]

My kids were required to go to church with us while they lived at home. The only exception was if they had a job and they were required to work during church time.

My suggestion is to tighten the rules after they graduate so they will want to move out That's how eagles get their eaglets to leave the nest. Each day they take more of the comfortable parts out of the nest until there's nothing left but thorny twigs. The eaglets leave the nest when the nest becomes so uncomfortable that risking the fall from the jump is the only way to get relief!

[Mercy]

Originally Posted by Jermyn Davidson

Maybe my Mom can loan your friend one of her cast iron skillets....

I'm just sayin'.

Funny

[shawndell]

I know by experience that you need a tight hold on these children be cause I have a daughter who is a backslider and maried to a drug addict,alcoholic that does not work. Ive got two grandsons and another grandchild on the way who are not being raised in church.The dad of my grandsons has the 3 year old afraid of the holyghost telling him that its bad to have the holyghost and when I take him to church he screams and wants to go home and the son in law laughs about it. SO PLEASE PRAY!!!!

[Baron1710]

Haven't walked that path yet. I have learned that it's a lot easier to find answers for others than for yourself. It's easy to know what to do when it is their kids.

[Tim Rutledge]

When your 18 yr. old drinks alcohol and smokes dope in your house.. and won't stop and is non repentent.. its time for him to find a different place to live. Especially when there are 4 other kids in the house.