Gays, family ties and opening up....

[Jack Shephard]

****I do not want this thread to become a debate if at all possible.****

Hello all. The family in question is acutally on my wifes side. Her cousin is a gay man. He has been married before and even has a child. His boyfriend and him were both raised in the church. They are soul mates many say. They started as friends and over the years grew closer until they one day consumated the relationship. Through the time they have been together both of them will tell you that their relationship has had VERY few sexual encounters with each other. It is more of a soul mate relationship. As of roughly a year ago my wifes cousin JA, no one on here knows them so no PM's guessing, lost his father. JA and his bf have been having the feeling that they do not want to miss heaven. They know based on their heritage that their lifestyle is wrong, but they keep asking themselves why they have these feelings and so on. Of course we tell them there is pleasure in sin and all that which they acknowledge they are wrong, but are having a rough time letting each other go and moving on.

I know people that have fought the sin of homosexuality in their past. I am not ashamed to say the devil tried to get me to fall into it at avery young age, but I have victory and ABSOLUTELY NO temptations ever! I know others that have victory over it too. But I guess that we need everyones prayers. Most in my family, my side and my wifes side, see me as the spiritual leader or guru of sorts. They all come to me with questions and concerns about this though most of them have no clue that God delievered me. The old saying seems to be true the more hell you have gone through in life the more of heaven is poured out on you. Just to clear the air I NEVER fell into this sin, but the devil tried to get me to fall. I have talked with alot of men about this and lots have gone through the same things.

Also I need some advise from you out there. I have RARELY told anyone about my past temptations. Again having NEVER done anything like that it is difficult for me to totally relate to these guys. I feel that AFF is kinda like a family. As I say most in my family I have never told about this stuff cause the embarassment it could bring. I hope that no one on here treats me different because I am not nor have I ever been gay. Nor will I ever be because God delivered me! Praise be to God!

I have talked to my wifes aunt about them starting to attend church again. The bf does go from time to time. I personally think it will be better for them that they split and NEVER see each other again. What kind of advise do any of you all have for me? I need all the help I can get. The family I speak of lives in IL so they are nowhere close to us here, but it seems that apparently I am the one to help. What say ye?