Divorce

[Bella1]

I am sad to report that my divorce was final on Monday August 27, 2012. It has been a hard 3 years 11 months since the beginning of my "journey".

Love those that are in your life and heart. You never know when it will change.

[RandyWayne]

I guess in some ways it is sad, but I would think you would also be feeling a certain amount of relief.

[CC1]

Bella1, sorry to hear you are going through this. I will be praying that God will give you peace and comfort and direction.

[Bella1]

It is an overwhelming bittersweet experience.

I am the one who walked away from the marriage, "thinking" that if I did, he would want to change and would go to counseling with me. I was wrong to place that decision at his doorstep. He was not mature enough or man enough to say he had issues. And TRUST me, they were BIG issues. I had problems also. I can't lay the blame all at his feet.

But saying that...I have gotten counseling for myself. I accept that what I did was wrong and I must always live with that. There was unfixable things within the marriage. I accept that also.

I still love him. I love him enough to want him to find someone that makes him happy. That complete's him like I did not. It does hurt when I type those words, but I am ready to move on with my life.

I am ready to date again. I am ready to see what life has to offer.

[Amanah]

yes, sadness, grief, and hopefully closure also.

[MawMaw]

I am sorry Bella. I know it has to be sad.
Praying God comforts you during this time.

[bbyrd009]

Me too. I'm kind of shocked,
guess i have you on a pedestal,
kind of. Your posts are usually
what I wish mine were, lol.

[AreYouReady?]

Bella, I feel sad for you. I know that you must feel like half of you has been ripped away.

[Bella1]

Originally Posted by bbyrd009

Me too. I'm kind of shocked,
guess i have you on a pedestal,
kind of. Your posts are usually
what I wish mine were, lol.

Please never put me or anyone else on a pedestal.
Although I am grinning to think of "why" you would want to anyhow.
And I am assumng you SO are kidding.

But in all honestly, I would not wish divorce on anyone. I had heard that it was worse than a death and it truly is. To see your spouse with someone else at church functions that they would come to (we were still married and she was already living with him, so he really was still my spouse) and to walk into a home that I lived in and see someone else standing in my place is heartwrenching and breathtaking.
To see them riding down the road together. At a grocery store.

To see where his life is at now. From a Praise and Worship leader to a gambler, drinker, smoker, and all around VATO. (or at least he thinks he is! LOL!)

[ILG]

Sorry Bella. I wish you peace...