Are we too BUSY

Rhoni · #1 09-10-2008, 05:50 AM

Since being in Texas, more so than in Florida or Indiana, I have struggled with being too busy and it appears others are too busy to make time for true fellowship. With individual saints and Pastors also. Everyone is so busy that there is no relationships/friendships, and no room for any. Everyone says, "Let's get together this week," and then never call.

It is funny, I feel God is a really 'relational' God and it seems that people have less time for each other or disciplining others because they are so 'busy' in their own world.

Are we too busy? Is this a tool of satan to destroy relationships and break down friendships and/or homes?

How do others feel about this? Do we really not care about others because we are so self-involved in our circumstances and our own lives?

Just Curious,
Rhoni

Scott Hutchinson · #2 09-10-2008, 08:25 AM

I have time for fellowship but I don't really have anybody too much to fellowship.

MrsMcD · #3 09-10-2008, 08:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Scott Hutchinson

I have time for fellowship but I don't really have anybody too much to fellowship.

This is so sad Brother Scott. We have invited lots of couples over and asked people to go out to eat but it is usually never reciprocated. Oh well...

Scott Hutchinson · #4 09-10-2008, 09:48 AM

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Originally Posted by MrsMcD

This is so sad Brother Scott. We have invited lots of couples over and asked people to go out to eat but it is usually never reciprocated. Oh well...

Well if me and my wife were closer,we'd get together with yall.

MrsMcD · #5 09-10-2008, 10:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Scott Hutchinson

Well if me and my wife were closer,we'd get together with yall.

Thank you Brother Scott.

Carpenter · #6 09-10-2008, 11:22 AM

I would fellowship more, but it is such a big pain in the butt to get up and get dressed, clean the house...ya know make sure I don't bring contempt upon myself, my education or my career choice.

Sometimes it's not worth the effort.

...but then again, maybe I should invite people who are less fortunate, then I will feel good while they are a bit uncomfortable.

MrsMcD · #7 09-10-2008, 08:50 AM

I think people care but not enough to make a sacrifice.

Rhoni · #8 09-10-2008, 09:55 AM

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Originally Posted by MrsMcD

I think people care but not enough to make a sacrifice.

But I think...what is the sacrifice? Relationships are all there is. This is the first time I haven't made a dozen or more friends. I have been in Texas two years this month and the only friends I have made are those from AFF that i have met and travelled to see, or they have seen me.

The churches I have been to are very closed off. They have the friends they have always had, do things the way they've always done them, and do not think about including others. When you go out of your way to try to get friends together it is so diffiuclt and even if they say they will do it they beg off before it actually takes place.

I guess Texas is an animal all her own. Not very friendly. They are a bit arrogant and snobbish. Just my observation out of the past two years.

Blessings, Rhoni

Esther · #9 09-10-2008, 10:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

But I think...what is the sacrifice? Relationships are all there is. This is the first time I haven't made a dozen or more friends. I have been in Texas two years this month and the only friends I have made are those from AFF that i have met and travelled to see, or they have seen me.

The churches I have been to are very closed off. They have the friends they have always had, do things the way they've always done them, and do not think about including others. When you go out of your way to try to get friends together it is so diffiuclt and even if they say they will do it they beg off before it actually takes place.

I guess Texas is an animal all her own. Not very friendly. They are a bit arrogant and snobbish. Just my observation out of the past two years.

Blessings, Rhoni

Its not Texas it is the church your in. I am in the same situation here. This is probably the friendliest church I have ever been to "inside" the church. But NO fellowship outside of it.

Each church has it's unique dynamics and I am facing the same thing you are, but being older it is not the issue for me that it would be if I was 20 years or so younger.

Michael Phelps · #10 09-10-2008, 12:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

But I think...what is the sacrifice? Relationships are all there is. This is the first time I haven't made a dozen or more friends. I have been in Texas two years this month and the only friends I have made are those from AFF that i have met and travelled to see, or they have seen me.

The churches I have been to are very closed off. They have the friends they have always had, do things the way they've always done them, and do not think about including others. When you go out of your way to try to get friends together it is so diffiuclt and even if they say they will do it they beg off before it actually takes place.

I guess Texas is an animal all her own. Not very friendly. They are a bit arrogant and snobbish. Just my observation out of the past two years.

Blessings, Rhoni

I don't think it's Texas in general, my opinion is that it's the personality of the city that can make it closed or open.

For instance, a city like Phoenix, which is growing by leaps and bounds is a very friendly city, in my experience. I think the reason for that is that there are so many other transplants, everyone is in the same boat. And, then a city like Battle Creek, Michigan, is not so friendly, mainly because most of the people who live there grew up there, and their circles of influence are firmly established.

That's what I love about Omaha, it's a growing city, and many of the people with whom I work and in the neighborhood in which I live are transplants, as well. But, even the Omahans who grew up here are very friendly.