Though as a man, I think that boiling down the issue to men being dumb is a little ... Well, dumb .
Complex systems fail in complex ways. Both men and women have to work hard to understand each other's "systems". It does NOT come natural - which I find baffling, by the way. So much of it isn't about intelligence. It's about emotion and to a large extent, hormones, of course . Trust me, it would be easy for us to call the woman's perspective "dumb." Just sayin'.
I apologize for using the word "DUMB" but it happens to fit my circumstance and many many husbands I have had the misfortune of knowing, who are married to women I know.
I apologize for using the word "DUMB" but it happens to fit my circumstance and many many husbands I have had the misfortune of knowing, who are married to women I know.
I would just like to state for the record, that this goes both ways....it's not always the man.
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I would just like to state for the record, that this goes both ways....it's not always the man.
True, however, the Bible says for men to love their wives as Christ loved the church. In most instances if the man does this, everything else falls into place, unless the woman is just a spoiled brat or has mental problems.
...I think the real problem "in the church" is that there is not enough marriage training? or teaching? whatever you want to call it. Women marry preachers many times, just because they are a preacher no matter what the man looks like, just for the prestige of being married to a preacher. Then the man gets this beautiful wife and if he does not know how to connect with her on an emotional level, their intimate life will be VERY minimal. Face it, men need sex. If he goes years without gettin it at home, he will find it somewhere. Too many of my friends have gotten divorced in the last 2 years, leaving 20+ years of marriage and their "preacher" husbands, either he cheated or her.
He wants sex, but doesn't know how to give his wife the emotional aspect to make her want it, and since he doesn't fulfill her emotionally she looks for another man to fulfill her in that manner.
Men are DUMB in most marriages, they think it's all about the mechanics, when in reality it's about that emotional connection.
This is a really good post. More time needs to be spent in marriage counseling before a marriage to ensure both man and woman understand the physical and emotional needs of each other.
Last edited by MissBrattified; 01-26-2013 at 04:57 PM.
This is a really good post. More time needs to be spent in marriage counseling before a marriage to ensure both man and woman understand the physical and emotional needs of each other.
Marriage counseling? Why? All you (as a believer) need to know is in Paul's writing: don't get married, unless you really want to have sex.
Simple!
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I do not personally know Bro. Black but have enjoyed hearing him preach through the years. That being said, I think the real problem "in the church" is that there is not enough marriage training? or teaching? whatever you want to call it. Women marry preachers many times, just because they are a preacher no matter what the man looks like, just for the prestige of being married to a preacher. Then the man gets this beautiful wife and if he does not know how to connect with her on an emotional level, their intimate life will be VERY minimal. Face it, men need sex. If he goes years without gettin it at home, he will find it somewhere. Too many of my friends have gotten divorced in the last 2 years, leaving 20+ years of marriage and their "preacher" husbands, either he cheated or her.
He wants sex, but doesn't know how to give his wife the emotional aspect to make her want it, and since he doesn't fulfill her emotionally she looks for another man to fulfill her in that manner.
Men are DUMB in most marriages, they think it's all about the mechanics, when in reality it's about that emotional connection.
I'm glad all the women got together.
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