How to Apologize!

[Barb]

Originally Posted by ManOfWord

Humble pie NEVER tastes good!!!


When you have hurt someone, and you know it because they tell you, or you can see the bleeding wound, simply admit the hurt, take responsibility, ask for forgiveness and let them respond...............

"Obviously what I did or said hurt you more than I can understand. I can assure you that it was not my intent to do so. I am so sorry for the hurt I caused. Please forgive me and know that I will try my best to not let it happen again."

Absolutely!! And then let us be Christ-like enough to forgive and move on. We can hang a misspoken word or err in judgment over people's heads forever, when the truth is, none of us have arrived and we all make mistakes.

Especially in heated discussions, it is easy to say, "You're an idiot!!" when in reality, we simply don't agree with or understand their idiotic view.

[Praxeas]

Originally Posted by Pianoman

AFF is in the honeymoon phase, so I thought I would start this thread to teach folks how to apologize when they've obviously offended someone. Folks can refer to this thread when they need to apologize!

1. Admit you were wrong.
2. Acknowledge the hurt you have caused.
3. Ask for forgiveness.
4. Promise to never do it again

e.g. I was wrong for attacking you personally like I did. I know my actions have caused you much hurt, pain and anger. Could you please find it in your heart to forgive me? From here on out, I will treat you with respect!

Good luck!

note: I'm tired of hearing apologies that say, "If I hurt you"! Of course you hurt them!!!

How not to apologize "I didn't do anything wrong, but if it will help you sleep at night...I apologize" .....seriously that was someone's "apology" to me recently

Originally Posted by Pianoman

AFF is in the honeymoon phase, so I thought I would start this thread to teach folks how to apologize when they've obviously offended someone. Folks can refer to this thread when they need to apologize!

1. Admit you were wrong.
2. Acknowledge the hurt you have caused.
3. Ask for forgiveness.
4. Promise to never do it again

e.g. I was wrong for attacking you personally like I did. I know my actions have caused you much hurt, pain and anger. Could you please find it in your heart to forgive me? From here on out, I will treat you with respect!

Good luck!

note: I'm tired of hearing apologies that say, "If I hurt you"! Of course you hurt them!!!

Very good. IF I ever offend anyone I will try and remember your points.

[Rhoni]

Originally Posted by Pianoman

AFF is in the honeymoon phase, so I thought I would start this thread to teach folks how to apologize when they've obviously offended someone. Folks can refer to this thread when they need to apologize!

1. Admit you were wrong.
2. Acknowledge the hurt you have caused.
3. Ask for forgiveness.
4. Promise to never do it again

e.g. I was wrong for attacking you personally like I did. I know my actions have caused you much hurt, pain and anger. Could you please find it in your heart to forgive me? From here on out, I will treat you with respect!

Good luck!

note: I'm tired of hearing apologies that say, "If I hurt you"! Of course you hurt them!!!

How not to apologize:


"I'm sorry you got offended at what I said/did"





This is not an apology. This is a deflection of blame.

It implies the one you're talking to is at fault for being offended at what you said or did. When you're to blame for saying/doing something that offended them... even if you didn't mean to.


No... the correct way to say it is...

"I'm sorry I offended you with what I said/did, or the way I said/did it"

Clear the air.

[OneAccord]

Originally Posted by whollyHis

This is a pet peeve of mine- that is NOT an apology- it's 'cop-out'.

Speaking of cop outs. Heres one. The "offender" says, "Im sorry you got offended". Hes not sorry he offended someone...he's just sorry someone got offended.

[IAintMovin]

Originally Posted by Pianoman

AFF is in the honeymoon phase, so I thought I would start this thread to teach folks how to apologize when they've obviously offended someone. Folks can refer to this thread when they need to apologize!

1. Admit you were wrong.
2. Acknowledge the hurt you have caused.
3. Ask for forgiveness.
4. Promise to never do it again

e.g. I was wrong for attacking you personally like I did. I know my actions have caused you much hurt, pain and anger. Could you please find it in your heart to forgive me? From here on out, I will treat you with respect!

Good luck!

note: I'm tired of hearing apologies that say, "If I hurt you"! Of course you hurt them!!!

This one hurt me PM -

Good post!!

[Rhoni]

Do me a favor...I am offended that people have changed their names on hths forum so I don't know who I am supposed to be offended at...so please unoffend me and tell me who everyone is!

Blessings, Rhoni

[OneAccord]

Originally Posted by Ronzo

How not to apologize:


"I'm sorry you got offended at what I said/did"





This is not an apology. This is a deflection of blame.

It implies the one you're talking to is at fault for being offended at what you said or did. When you're to blame for saying/doing something that offended them... even if you didn't mean to.


No... the correct way to say it is...

"I'm sorry I offended you with what I said/did, or the way I said/did it"

Clear the air.

I posted before I saw your post. Yours is mucho better. Sorry 'bout that chief.

Originally Posted by OneAccord

I posted before I saw your post. Yours is mucho better. Sorry 'bout that chief.

No worries. You admitted I'm better than you so I'm ok with it. *snicker*



Just kiddin'.