Who's in charge in YOUR home?

[revrandy]

I might be the King of my castle but Revshoney is the crown that sits on my head...

[Digging4Truth]

Well I didn't make a choice in the poll.

The correct answer is the husband but I am just not comfortable clicking it because we are such a team effort.

As I have said before in other threads...

My wife and I make decisions together. We discuss issues and come to a conclusion.

In the wildly uncommon time that we are unable to come to a consensus between the two of us then we will go with my decision and I will bear the responsibility for that decision being right or wrong.

[Trouvere]

Originally Posted by Digging4Truth

Well I didn't make a choice in the poll.

The correct answer is the husband but I am just not comfortable clicking it because we are such a team effort.

As I have said before in other threads...

My wife and I make decisions together. We discuss issues and come to a conclusion.

In the wildly uncommon time that we are unable to come to a consensus between the two of us then we will go with my decision and I will bear the responsibility for that decision being right or wrong.

You know I didn't vote either.There wasn't a choice I was comfortable with.
We do the same as you guys.My husband is the one who is more spiritual anyway.
He has the better attitude..lol.When things get rough and we need an answer from God we fast and pray together and he takes it to the altar and comes back
with a word from the Lord.Thanks God for that.

[ForeverBlessed]

I am in charge.

I am pretty convinced that a Proverbs 31 woman is a woman who is strong... more than capable of running and being in charge of a household.

God gave women the patience, fortitude, grace, detail orientation needed to completely and efficiently run a household. God made the man the spiritual leader, provider and protector of that home and children that woman manage.

The wholeness of how these two come together as one to compliment each other is how it is supposed to be.

God gives us everything of this physical life to manage to bring him glory, honor and a good reflection of Him. I think he intended the marriage to be the same… what better way can a wife honor her husband than to efficiently manage the household… so that he is honored... we women make men look good.

There you go... gospel according to Lisa....

[Digging4Truth]

Originally Posted by Trouvere

You know I didn't vote either.There wasn't a choice I was comfortable with.
We do the same as you guys.My husband is the one who is more spiritual anyway.
He has the better attitude..lol.When things get rough and we need an answer from God we fast and pray together and he takes it to the altar and comes back
with a word from the Lord.Thanks God for that.

Amen...

Both for him and the wonderful leadership he is providing and for your appreciation for his contribution.

It takes 2.

One can be the best wife or the best husband they can possibly be but it takes both honoring and respecting each other to make it work.

Blessings on both of you and your entire household.

I didn't have an option either... we make any major decisions together and I will not have the kind of marriage where my decision carries more weight than hers.

[Trouvere]

Originally Posted by Digging4Truth

Amen...

Both for him and the wonderful leadership he is providing and for your appreciation for his contribution.

It takes 2.

One can be the best wife or the best husband they can possibly be but it takes both honoring and respecting each other to make it work.

Blessings on both of you and your entire household.

Thanks Brother.I apprieciate this comment.

[ILG]

We are pretty egalitarian but if push came to shove and we just couldn't agree, I would subject myself to my husband. But I know that he would try and make the best decision for the family even if I didn't agree. I think that's what male headship is all about. That way, if the whole thing blows up, it's HIS FAULT!!!

[Ferd]

Mostly I agree with the findings in the study. on day to day things, on personal matters, on areas where someone needs to "change" wives tend to have their way.

[RandyWayne]

we make any major decisions together and I will not have the kind of marriage where my decision carries more weight than hers.

Amen and amen. Neither of us act as a dictator to the other and I can't think of an instant where I put my foot down and demanded something. I never HAD to because she is usually willing to do something I feel strongly about, and if she ISN'T then there is always a good reason that I need to look at. (I actually voted "No one!" in the poll since I didn't quite agree with the first one and absolutely did not agree with the 2nd... nor the 3d -but have seen all three)

There are a few small things that I wish she would do, but also know how much she hates to, so I will never force the issue. And this goes both ways.

I have seen my share of male dictators where men take the whole "head of the household" literally and proclaim that their word is law. It makes me very uncomfortable to see and be around.... The only thing that is worse when it is the woman who wears the pants in the family and acts like the dictator. lol