I voted "the husband".... because I took it upon myself to interpret "in charge" to mean "lead".
As a man who prayerfully leads my home, my wife's opinions and judgements are extremely valuable as she is a
Pr. 31 woman.
I am neither overbearing nor controlling (although a bit stubborn) - we work together to build a home. We work to build it on the principles of the Word. We work to play each others strengths and cover the others weakness.
God has blessed me with a prayerful and godly wife!