If a loving mother say her little boy with a fork going towards an outlet but still far away from it, she might say with loving concern, honey don't do that you are going to hurt yourself. If the boy doesn't listen, she might raise her voice and point to him with a stern face and say, I said don't do that, you are going to hurt yourself. Finally, if the boy still persists, she might get up and smack him really hard. Why did she do these things? Because she wants to abuse her power and authority and show off her spiritual muscle? No, because she loves and cares for the little boy and knows that he will get hurt if not die - she does it for him.
So should the watchman and Pastor of the church in my opinion.
The problem I have with your assessment of the situation is that you liken the saints to children who aren't responsible for their own actions and the ministry as those who are responsible. That's now how it is. We are all responsible for our own salvation. The pastor can tell us the guidelines according to the Bible, but it's up to us to obey them. He shouldn't hit us over the head if we don't listen. It's our own responsibility.
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