Emotional affair

[gloryseeker]

Originally Posted by jaxfam6

I can understand some of the points made by Rico in his post. I do not necessarily agree or disagree with all of it. He obviously went to far in his emotional connection. I have women I grew up with that I have remained friends with them and their husbands. I have no problem being alone with them, if the need would arise. I am not, neve was, and never will be, attracted to these women. I can and do tell them, in front of their husbands and in front of my wife that I love them. I have even hugged them and kissed. Not a mushy boyfriend/girlfriend type kiss, just a friendly peck on the cheek. If one of their husbands had a problem with it he would need to speak up. I don't make it a habit and I never will.
We have friends that we see all the time and I trust him with my wife and her with him. We are friends, we would probably fight to the death for each other. I love them and I have been alone with his wife and he alone with mine. As alone as couples with 4 kids apiece can ever be. We have even had some pretty personal conversations but I do not feel I would ever have anything more then my current friendship. Maybe I am just wishful thinking. I do believe that everyone should practice some godly common sense in ALL situations.

You make some valid points....so would that mean as an answer to PoMo's original question that adultery is a condition of the heart and not just the physical?

[gloryseeker]

Originally Posted by jaxfam6

i suddenly have the warm fuzzies.

someone agrees with me

I think I am going to.........

oh wow two agree

here i g.......


again

Don't allow your warm fuzzies to grow into an emotional affair with those who agree with you

[Falla39]

Originally Posted by Rico

Sister Falla, I am on a quest for truth, just like the rest of us. When I find it, I have no choice but to defend it. You're righta lot of the things you've said about me, except that I know about I would never be accepted among conservatives as a fellow conservative. Just the fact that I am willing to withstand them face to face disqualifies me and makes me rebellious in their opinion. That's ok, though. I like being a free agent. Thank you for your kind words.

Bro. Rico,
Could it be that being a conservative in heart and feeling that you are not excepted because of a differing opinion, are two different things! Having a differing opinion should not necessarily disqualify you. Neither should having an opinion different from those considered to be fellow conservatives keep you from being a free agent. I have a feeling that you would be respected for a differing opinion if you kept in mind that sometimes it isn't what we say but the way in which we say it.
Like being able to disagree without coming across as being disagreeable. What do you think!

Please don't think I am being critical at all. I would never offend you intentionally for anything. You have tremendous potential for God.

Blessings,

Falla39

[Rico]

Originally Posted by Falla39

Bro. Rico,
Could it be that being a conservative in heart and feeling that you are not excepted because of a differing opinion, are two different things! Having a differing opinion should not necessarily disqualify you. Neither should having an opinion different from those considered to be fellow conservatives keep you from being a free agent. I have a feeling that you would be respected for a differing opinion if you kept in mind that sometimes it isn't what we say but the way in which we say it.
Like being able to disagree without coming across as being disagreeable. What do you think!

Please don't think I am being critical at all. I would never offend you intentionally for anything. You have tremendous potential for God.

Blessings,

Falla39

Sister, the truth of the matter is that I have no desire to be accepted as part of any one specific group of believers. I like things the way they are.

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by A_PoMo

I appreciate all the comments. Good stuff.

So, it seems that nobody here thinks that an emotional affair is adultery. Is that a fair conclusion to draw from the discussion so far?

I believe it is adultery.

[Falla39]

Originally Posted by Rico

Sister, the truth of the matter is that I have no desire to be accepted as part of any one specific group of believers. I like things the way they are.

Dear Brother,

No problem! I trust I haven't offended you in any way. Something
within me and also because of experiences in my life, plus a strong
mothering nurturing nature, causes me to want to help make
things/life easier for others coming along behind me. But hey, if you
"like the way things are", bless you! Maybe instead of saying
you appear "conservative", "independent" would be a better word. An
independant teddy bear, who loves God, his wife and his children".
Nothing wrong with that!
And you don't need no momma!

Blessings,

Falla39

[Falla39]

Bro. A POMO,

Forgive me for hijacking your thread!

Blessings,

Falla39

[Rhoni]

The place an affair begins is in the seat of emotions. The person reaches out to you in an area not being met by your spouse.

The Bible tells us that it begins with a thought, then another thought, then a feeling, and before it is finished it becomes sin.

[IsolatedSaint]

Originally Posted by Rhoni

The place an affair begins is in the seat of emotions. The person reaches out to you in an area not being met by your spouse.

Ah....that's one reason why we need to marry that person whom God has ordained for us to be married to because that is indeed the one that can fulfill all of our needs(including the emotional ones). I have a relative who's currently involved in one of these emotional affairs for 2 years now although it's long distance. No sex.....although the flames of passion seem to still be there despite the fact that the parties involved are in there 70's........ The weird part about it is that the husband doesn't seem to care. I see nothing but danger and at the very best future heartache and untold sorrows and misery coming out of this. This is alot more serious than people can imagine......people jump off bridges off of this kind of stuff.

[A_PoMo]

Originally Posted by rgcraig

I believe it is adultery.

Why do you believe an emotional affair is adultery?