If your wife enjoys romance novels and happens to occasionally fantasize about her being a captive princess rescued by some hot young Italian Romeo that looks like an actor on television... it might be lustful. But it's not actual adultery.
If your wife is in the mood to be a "bad girl" and has a fantasy about the pool boy that cleans the pool next door... it might be lustful. It might even an adulterous thought in the heart. But it's not actual adultery.
Sure... for such a woman... some confession, repentance, Spirit filled effort to guide her thoughts better, and hubby going on a diet and being more manly and clean the pool might be in order. But she has not actually committed adultery.
Exodus 20:17
17 “You shall not covet your neighbor's house; you shall not covet your neighbor's wife, or his male servant, or his female servant, or his ox, or his donkey, or anything that is your neighbor's.”
I'd never accuse my wife of committing adultery if I found a raunchy Cosmo Magazine in her things or discovered she had a trashy fantasy. Now, I might want to talk about it. I might want to encourage her to seek more of Jesus. But I'd not accuse her of adultery and I definitely wouldn't think about divorce. In my mind, this is one of those human issues that might rear its head several times throughout the course of one's lifetime within marriage. It has to addressed... bounderies should be drawn... prayer, confession, and repentance sought. But not a divorce. That's some serious stuff. If I ever remarry, I'd rather live with a wife who gets freaky every now and then... and seek some counseling... than shatter my family and reduce both of us to part time parents and doom our kids to experience the trauma from coming from a broken home.
Just being honest.
And sensible.
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Maybe I'm a bit too open minded... but a book titled, "The Gift of Sex", helped to shape my sex ethic with regards to marriage. In the book, the authors distinguish between "lust" and "fantasy" and actually express that some degree of "fantasy" is healthy for some couples if it brings mutual enjoyment and fulfilment.
Of course, there are other equally valid opinions. In the end... you have to be true to yourself and live as you feel led by the Spirit regarding what is acceptable before your God. You only answer to Him anyway.
As a husband... I mean... what do you do if you get home from work, and before you take off your tie, your wife walks up to you, smiles, and says, "Mr. President... may I have an urgent word with you?" lol
Would a decent husband divorce her?
Squash her mood and rebuke her?
I can only speak for myself because... I know Presidents can be very busy people, but I might make time to discover what this intern considers "urgent". lol
Maybe I'm a bit too open minded... but a book titled, "The Gift of Sex", helped to shape my sex ethic with regards to marriage. In the book, the authors distinguish between "lust" and "fantasy" and actually express that some degree of "fantasy" is healthy for some couples if it brings mutual enjoyment and fulfilment.
Of course, there are other equally valid opinions. In the end... you have to be true to yourself and live as you feel led by the Spirit regarding what is acceptable before your God. You only answer to Him anyway.
As a husband... I mean... what do you do if you get home from work, and before you take off your tie, your wife walks up to you, smiles, and says, "Mr. President... may I have an urgent word with you?" lol
Would a decent husband divorce her?
Squash her mood and rebuke her?
I can only speak for myself because... I know Presidents can be very busy people, but I might make time to discover what this intern considers "urgent". lol
I can only speak for myself... but when one has been married almost 30 years it's either hot or cold... Hot is much better! I think a buncha folks could use a copy of that book.
I can only speak for myself... but when one has been married almost 30 years it's either hot or cold... Hot is much better! I think a buncha folks could use a copy of that book.
I can only speak for myself... but when one has been married almost 30 years it's either hot or cold... Hot is much better! I think a buncha folks could use a copy of that book.
What???? Is hot or cold? How about after 50?
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My personal opinion about reading books, u have to be careful some of this fantacy reading can bring problems. what you read is what you are, what you eat is what you are. i think some of these books are not good to get into. it brings to many things in the marriage. then whats next getting into porn. theres a book out there called "fifty shades of grey" and I heard it isnt a good book to read. i think we just have to be careful what we read. if you have problems with your marriage I say seek a counselor..
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Re: Adultery and divorce
How about after 50?
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