Sure. However, this thread addresses opinions and personal preferences that we are presumably too polite to discuss in most public venues. It isn't my job to make any effeminate man more masculine. I don't have that ability, anyway. That doesn't mean I'm going to be attracted to an effeminate man, simply because I have the knowledge that it isn't my place or within my reach to change them in any way. And we definitely teach our girls to look for "manly men" when looking for husband material. In today's culture, women are groomed to see passivity as being preferred in a man, but in reality that ends up being boring and unattractive. I'd rather tousle with a little too much testosterone than the other way around.
It IS important to note that a man being effeminate is a
sin; it isn't homosexual behaviors alone that are wrong. Therefore, it's just as important for Christians to be aware of this as it is that they know to avoid adultery, lying or stealing. And the fact that it's classified with other optional behaviors tells me that effeminacy is just as much a choice as anything else. It can be learned, unlearned and chosen or not. (
I Corinthians 6:9-10)
I looked up "effeminate" from I Corinthians.
Greek word -
malakos, meaning: Of uncertain affinity;
soft, that is,
fine (clothing); figuratively a catamite: - effeminate, soft.
Interestingly enough, a "catamite" was a boy in ancient Greece who was "kept" by a pedophile.
Also interesting is the reference to "fine (clothing)."
This is a soapbox of mine, so I'll save it for another thread, but I do believe it's
ideal for a woman to be the primary caretaker of her home and children--especially small children. That said, there's room for other arrangements as long as both husband and wife are in agreement.
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