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Originally Posted by Falla39
My husband's cousin still declares himself an alcohoic even though he hasn't touched a drop in 12 yrs. I would think it would be better to say "a former alcoholic" or, "such WAS I". But then I wasn't an alcoholic, etc. Husband's cousin doesn't claim to be a Christian, or say he's an "alcoholic Christian" either.
Falla39
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That is a chief and recognized deficiency in the 12 step model, and it applies here; you just hang on to that hurt as long as you need to, and then see that when you no longer identify with it is when it will lose its final hold over you. When you begin to describe yourself as a former ______ , the dichotomy quickly becomes clear, and you lose the identity soon after. I would encourage anyone in this position to begin referring to themselves as a "former," asap, and see.
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