Divorce?

[Jermyn Davidson]

It is my understanding that Aspergers is usually diagnosed earlier than adulthood.

From my personal experience, he sounds like he is clinically depressed-- meaning that you won't be able to understand as much as you think you should be able to about the man you love. DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF, and please, please, realize that your husband is probably a very ill man, but not a bad man.

I recommend that you take him to a mental health professional so that he can get diagnosed officially, begin meds and counselling on a regular basis.

If I am right, the last thing that you should do right now is divorce him-- especialy if he isn't in his right mind.

If he refuses to be seen by a mental health professional, then maybe someone else can recommend something.

For me, I was in denial for the longest and it took something drastic for me to realize that I needed professional help. Hopefully, your husband will not be as stubborn as I was.