Divorce?

[votivesoul]

1 Corinthians 7:4,

4. ...and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

While this primarily deals with "due benevolence", other aspects of the husband's body come into play, such as hygiene, when it affects the ability of the wife to so render.

So, in this, I say you have every right to demand he take care of himself. You can't force it, obviously, and if he is mentally ill, there isn't much else you can do on this end.

1 Corinthians 7:13-15,

13. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
14. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
15. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.

Your husband, as you've relayed it, is now an unbeliever. And from what you've written, I don't think he is "pleased to dwell" with you.

After all, if he were pleased to dwell with you, he'd make some effort to contribute to the marriage in a meaningful way that made your life more enjoyable.

Since, apparently, he is not doing anything of the sort, I would call this a case of indirect abuse through abandonment of the vows he made to you when you married.

A man (or woman, even) doesn't have to be physically violent to be abusive. They don't have to yell or damage their spouse in any overt way. They just have to do things that hurt the recipient.

So this is what I say (and take it for what it's worth: a stranger on a message board giving an opinion):

He is abusing you psychologically and is not pleased to dwell with you. He is an unbeliever. He has not physically departed, but he's basically gone, nonetheless.

You are not under bondage, but are called to peace. You need not divorce the man. But I think you have the right, if everything you have shared is accurate, to leave.

You don't have the right to sign papers ending your marriage (unless or until marital infidelity can be proven), and so, you don't have the right to pursue a new life with a different man.

But you don't have to live in the squalor and destitution he has embraced and is forcing you to accept.

So, unless he is schizophrenic, or in desperate need of a mental hospital (meaning, he's just living this way out of his own choosing), then I would pack up and leave.

But before any of that, pray, fast, seek the Lord with all your heart, and hear from HIM first. And of course, as the Proverbs state, there is safety in the multitude of counselors. A local, Spirit-filled assembly led by anointed people of God can help much in this area.