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Re: Divorce?
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Originally Posted by ILG
I think searching for the reason for the behavior is very important in this situation. If there is a biological reason for it, there should be compassion as working towards managing the behavior is instituted. And if his behavior has in the past gotten him a lot of shame it will be hard to break through that. There is no room for shame in a situation that is caused by a biological problem. Unfortunately, disengaging emotionally from the behavior and looking at it rationally and trying to work through it is the best approach in my opinion. Easier said than done though. Are there other family members who can lend support?
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Yes, yes, I agree.  It's definitely important to make sure there aren't any serious underlying mental health issues causing his behavior before taking any other action.
The end goal of whatever you do should be to preserve the marriage. Even temporary separation should be with the aim of resolution in mind, and should be a last resort. (Better, BroE?  )
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