Pastor's Kids

[triumphant1]

Originally Posted by Whole Hearted

Well my kids are very active in the church, my daughter is a praise singer and our main special singer, my son plays the drums and works in outreach. Anyone on the platform should be en example.

Preachers and their families do live in a glass house, especially in a small community.

I am thankful that your kids are involved and active...praise God!

I have discovered that the glass house syndrom is only as big as you allow it to be. I do not allow intrusions into my personal life...but I do not pastor in such a way as to intrude into the personal lives of the people either...

I am not afraid to say, "That is a private family matter."

But I also don't make unexpected house calls and it is pretty much known that I do not appreciate them either. I also do not share every thing about my family while I preach. Nor do I use them as "examples" in a "look at my kids" kind of way.

[IAintMovin]

Originally Posted by triumphant1

I am thankful that your kids are involved and active...praise God!

I have discovered that the glass house syndrom is only as big as you allow it to be. I do not allow intrusions into my personal life...but I do not pastor in such a way as to intrude into the personal lives of the people either...

I am not afraid to say, "That is a private family matter."

But I also don't make unexpected house calls and it is pretty much known that I do not appreciate them either. I also do not share every thing about my family while I preach. Nor do I use them as "examples" in a "look at my kids" kind of way.

I remember when I first went up north of you that there was a family who came by for a "visit".....guess that they did that with AK before me.......I grabbed Shelly, ran outside stood in the driveway for about 10 minutes.......made the small talk......thanked them for coming by.....told them we needed to go in now.....BYE!!!!.......I was impressed... they caught on.........

I am like you in that I dont drop by without reason.... .and dont you either......

[Whole Hearted]

Originally Posted by IAintMovin

I remember when I first went up north of you that there was a family who came by for a "visit".....guess that they did that with AK before me.......I grabbed Shelly, ran outside stood in the driveway for about 10 minutes.......made the small talk......thanked them for coming by.....told them we needed to go in now.....BYE!!!!.......I was impressed... they caught on.........

I am like you in that I dont drop by without reason.... .and dont you either......

You mean I can't drop by for coffee and a slice of pie?

[IAintMovin]

Originally Posted by Whole Hearted

You mean I can't drop by for coffee and a slice of pie?

That would be a NO.....but I will meet in the driveway.......you have 10 minutes.. and the watch is ticking......

[Whole Hearted]

Originally Posted by IAintMovin

That would be a NO.....but I will meet in the driveway.......you have 10 minutes.. and the watch is ticking......

No thanks I don't stand outside of no body's house.

Tell you what if you are in our area come on by. We'll drink coffee or coke, or tea. or what ever we have that you like. Give my wife a hour or two and you can eat with us.

[triumphant1]

Originally Posted by IAintMovin

I remember when I first went up north of you that there was a family who came by for a "visit".....guess that they did that with AK before me.......I grabbed Shelly, ran outside stood in the driveway for about 10 minutes.......made the small talk......thanked them for coming by.....told them we needed to go in now.....BYE!!!!.......I was impressed... they caught on.........

I am like you in that I dont drop by without reason.... .and dont you either......

Being raised in houston churches it was not uncommon for there to be a "don't just drop by" mentality...

Frankly, a lot of people in our church didn't even know where the pastor lived or had certainly never been over there.

I guess I took that to Oklahoma with me....and it works just fine. The people I pastor are happy that i don't just show up...and they are just as happy that I get the same courtesy.

They know they are welcome to talk with me...but a phone call is expected and appreciated.

[revrandy]

Originally Posted by triumphant1

Being raised in houston churches it was not uncommon for there to be a "don't just drop by" mentality...

Frankly, a lot of people in our church didn't even know where the pastor lived or had certainly never been over there.

I guess I took that to Oklahoma with me....and it works just fine. The people I pastor are happy that i don't just show up...and they are just as happy that I get the same courtesy.

They know they are welcome to talk with me...but a phone call is expected and appreciated.

Some of the churches I've been in and around... the family is more like Royalty than just normal folks.. somewhat elevated from the fray if you will..

Truthfully I CAN"T stand that spirit...

but it is inbred in them..

[Whole Hearted]

Originally Posted by revrandy

Some of the churches I've been in and around... the family is more like Royalty than just normal folks.. somewhat elevated from the fray if you will..

Truthfully I CAN"T stand that spirit...

but it is inbred in them..

Anytime the pastor thinks himself better that the people He needs to humble himself and pray though.

[Whole Hearted]

Originally Posted by triumphant1

I am thankful that your kids are involved and active...praise God!

I have discovered that the glass house syndrom is only as big as you allow it to be. I do not allow intrusions into my personal life...but I do not pastor in such a way as to intrude into the personal lives of the people either...

I am not afraid to say, "That is a private family matter."

But I also don't make unexpected house calls and it is pretty much known that I do not appreciate them either. I also do not share every thing about my family while I preach. Nor do I use them as "examples" in a "look at my kids" kind of way.

I pastor country people and they like to drop by for coffee, we live nest door to the church right now. We are trying to find property though. I want them to feel welcome anytime.

I drop by their house anytime I want to and they enjoy the visits.

[triumphant1]

Originally Posted by Whole Hearted

I pastor country people and they like to drop by for coffee, we live nest door to the church right now. We are trying to find property though. I want them to feel welcome anytime.

I drop by their house anytime I want to and they enjoy the visits.

I am not condemning you in this...I simply do not want to do it like that...and I have less problems with the glass house syndrom as a result.